Would you do the move?
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- Brooklyn
Hey guys,
I'm having a hard time getting an answer to my question here... I've always wanted to go somewhere else to work... California, Florida, Arizona... You get the picture... A few of my friends did the experience and went to France for about a year and they loved it.
I was wondering, I'm sure alot of you experienced it... Is it possible to get a "normal" life while doing it? I mean, is it possible to have a great appartment, wife and kids? Cause it's been approx 8 years that I wanted to do that... and I've always chickened out... But I had my chances... Tampa Bay, New York, Phoenix and now San Francisco... Any of you have experiences to share? I need to know if it's possible to get a "normal" life... Bring the wife, and get kids... or is it a terrible pain in the ass trying to do so?
Thanks in advance for sharing guys... You can use my email if you like :
- Brooklyn0
BTW, I'm 27 and doing web design for 6 years, design and Flash... My girlfriend is an integrator... HTML, ASP stuff like that...
- k0na_an0k0
you're young enough to be able to take the chance.
- Mal0
I say go for it. I moved to New york on my own from Scotland in 91 and have never looked back.
- lj0
What do you want move ? Montréal isn't a good place to live ?
Just an advice: you mentioned California and France in the same sentence ... don't choose France ;-)
- Brooklyn0
Mal, do you have a girlfriend, kids?
- cosmo0
yeah no france.
- jevad0
bloody hell - what's stopping you man?!
I just moved to Denver, CO, from London, UK. Only been here 10 days but I have a job lined up already, skateparks up the wazoo, and mountains an hour away.
My wife is gonna be working about 10 mins from where I'll be, we're starting to look at houses, and we're getting a dog next week.
If you don't go, you'll never know.
- brooke0
Mal is a pimp.
From experience, it is more difficult to carry on a "normal" lifestyle in NYC. Arizona, on the other hand...
- brooke0
Jevad, seriously... congratulations. Sounds like an amazing time in your life. Best of luck to you & your wife.
- Brooklyn0
Hahaha, no, I wouldn't go to France... But Tampa Bay, Phoenix or SF, LA, San Diego... Would love to go there...
Why I would want to move from Montreal? I have no freakin' salary up here, i hate winter you have no idea!! If that Christofer Columbus would've discover Hawaii or some tropical island... It would be much better... I really hate it... There's no words to describe how much...
So, salary, winter, wanting something new... And btw, I know that there's alot of places (magazines, websites) that are saying that Montreal is a great place to live... But believe me, it isn't so great... You must love -40 degrees (celcius) in winter, getting your car wrecked in those street with so many holes you wouldn't believe... It's getting more and more like NYC up here... Crowdy, rents are getting to the roof for a 2 1/2... I'm lucky, we have something great and not too costly but still... It's not THAT great!
- Brooklyn0
Jevad - Oh, this is what i need. Man congrats to you 2 for getting the "nerves" for doing it! We just need that kick in the ass to get away somewhere... Plus, what I keep saying to myself, Tampa Bay is not that far from Montreal, so even if it's not working... We just need to get back and that's it, start over... but at least we would know where to stand afterwards...
- jevad0
thanks brooke!
^_^
I'm still like, totally freaking out, but things couldn't really be any better!
Hope NY is treating you well...
- Brooklyn0
I love NYC... I currently work in Montreal for a NY office... and I go there just about every month or so... I love it for a long weekend... a week or something like that... but to move there... don't think so... these people are too crazy for me... i'm not used to work 12h a day and pay 2500$ for rent...
- woodyBatts0
Hey i'm from tampa!
hey man...do it.
you want to do it, and if its in your heart then why worry. I have found we always fear things that aren't really there, we fear not having the money, but we know we can always pick up a job waiting tables etc etc...
Take the chance, what do you really have to lose?
You ain't gonna die.
- Brooklyn0
hey woodyBatts, totally dig what you're saying... but the thing is, i'm not risking only my next 3/5 years... it's more of having a girlfriend that wants kids before 30 (we're 27) and if we move and it doesn't work and we have to get back here and find new jobs... well, you know the drill, it's not really easy... if i was alone, forget it man, i would probably already be there! But it's more the part where i need to include my girlfriend... i don't want to "force" her to follow me, but i know she'll go wherever i go... but, if it doesnt work... i'll be the one to blame... :(
- lj0
I'm in the same situation. I really want move and get my ass out of this horrible europe. My girlfriend want go to Montréal, but if i could i would choose California (LA or SF). Never been to Florida. Do it. 27 is not too late.
- monkeyshine0
How old is your kid? Is your wife/girlfriend into moving too?
I've been in a relationship for 12 years and have no human kids but 2 birds and a dog (two dogs as of this week) and we've moved from Boston to Seattle, back to Boston, and last year to Nashville, where we just bought a house. That would be harder with school age children but I'm so glad I did it. I have life-long friends now in all places. Life is too short to stay in one place. Spread it out, I say.
- Brooklyn0
lj - im telling you... you better like COLD... FREEZING WINTER if you want to come here... especially this year, it's been quite a ride! When it's not -40, it's snowing like hell... Can't wait to May damn it!
I went to Phoenix, Vegas, LA, SF last year on a road trip from Phoenix to SF... and this was the best damn places I've ever seen... But I also went to Orlando in Florida... pretty nice too down there...
- ********0
do it, I did it from country to country. it will just make you stronger. :)
- woodyBatts0
OK now i totally have to say this...put yourself first man!
I have been there. i had a girlfriend and we were gonna get married etc etc. I wanted to buy a car, she didn't want me to get it, but it was my money so i bought it, well we broke up 3 months later, she moved out etc etc...
Now do you think that we broke up over a car? Absolutely not, there was other issues. But i would have felt like a dumbass for not buying the car. it was the car iu had always wanted since i was a little boy, and its hard to explain, but i worked very hard and i finally got it, I know that its a car and its inanimate but it meant something to me.
Moving ain't that big of a deal, like the car, if she was going to leave you, it would be because of you, not the landscape outside...
I hope i'm not being didatic, but please don't tattoo your path in life
stay strong brother
ps. if you don't like it you can always move back.