i am going down
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- unknown
life changes. everything changes.
yesterday my girlfriend told me shes possibly pregnant. today i received from a friend at job the notice that i will be fired for sure.
in two days:
a possible baby.
a sure workless situation.i am spanish, but i live in germany because i love my girlfriend, and i want to stay here but without job no way.
just posted this thread to tell ya guys my situation. maybe someone knows about an agency here in germany that looks for graphic designers. (maybe too optimistic!!!)
monday will be the urgent date of my website/portfolio/cv release.
i will post it here.thanx to everyone in advance
jg
(julio)
- Tyrone0
You're not going down dog. Things are just changing. Hang in there. Look at it like a new opportunity. Keeping a good perspective on this will help. You'll be fine. Keep your head up.
- timajick0
Good Luck, stay positive.
- virtu0
whoa man! thats a hairy situation! i dont think the advice i have to give would be very warmly accepted. So all i can do is wish you good luck man....hope all turns out well.
- ldww0
if you are not ready for a baby, get an abortion.
then look for a job
problem solved
- unknown0
thanx to everyone.
abortion not possible.
job situation in germany is collapsed. thank you ldww.guys i gotta go home... i will post everything on monday.
til then thanx, again!
- Tyrone0
Oh boy.....ldww did it. here we go..............instant change of topic i predict in 5
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- shellie0
ldww, why do you think a girl would want to get an abortion to solve his problems.
jerk.
- Tyrone0
I'm always right!
- shellie0
im just sayin making decisions like that arent as easy as "get an abortion then look for a job"...
thats silly.. and stupid advice.
- Tyrone0
i understand completely.....but i think that it's up to the guy posting to choose the advice he goes with..... for some thats an option....... it was said with no tact.......i just hate when these things go off topic like that.
- arthur0
Things will work out, don't worry. Just work hard to make everything fit into place. My kid means everything to me, think of it as a start of something amazing.
- Bluejam0
I sympathize with the situation but it's a weird posting...
"help i'm in trouble, see yer next week!"
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...instead of asking the audience phoning a friend might of been a wiser move.
- unknown0
If you cant afford to raise it. I'd go with the abortion as soon as possible. Or have the baby and let shellie raise it. She seems to be againts abortion.
- shellie0
the only advice you need is do whats right for you. if youre going to loose your job.. you have a responisbility to your girlfriend to be there for her through whatever decision she wants to make. pull yourself together.. you have a bunch of long nights ahead getting your portfolio in shape. by the time you have to leave your job you should be up and ready to hit the pavement.. possibly even before. remember... its always easier to find a job when you have one. so get yourself together this weekend!
good luck. it'll work out if you keep your head on straight.
- Bio0
things can turn out good.
she may not be pregnant, but if she is, you got about 9 months til it comes. germany has good healthcare, so you dont have to worry as much about expenses there (from what i hear).
if she doesnt have a good job, and you get one back home (or somewhere else), then move her ass to where the money is.
advice, use some NT folks to bounce around your folio ideas. there are some smart cats on here and they can give you some damned good advice.
best of luck to ya julio.
oh, and remember that if you have to get a "regular person job", there is no shame in doing what you have to do for a little while. i worked construction to pay for schooling, then after school, i had to work at the warehouse docks. it sucked, but it gave me time to work on my folio.
=)
- ldww0
shllie, did i say "force her to get an abortion to make your life easier" lemme check.... nope.
i said if you are not ready for a baby, you as in the both of them as a couple.
- mitsu0
i'm not touching that topic with a 10ft. umbilical cord.
but, whatever decision you make, just remember, both of you have to live with it. a friend of mine recently went through the exact same thing... tough stuff if you let it overwhelm you.
- Bio0
simple chain of logic:
1. IF you're gonna have a baby
2. Bio eats babies (everyone knows this by now)
3. have the baby
4. give Bio the baby
5. Bio eats the baby.
6. everyone wins.
7. except the baby.
8. but babies dont really know the difference anyway.
- unknown0
your an asshat ldww
- mikeim0
dude, you're gonna bail cause you can't find a job or cause you can't find a design job. you love your girl so much that you move to Germany but now she may be pregnant and you're leavin'.
sounds like another dead beat dad to me. yes, i have issues.