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- Biofreak0
im not reading thru all these posts, so here are my thoughts.
i was married. knew the girl my whole life. dated for 2 years, married for one.
now we've been divorced for 4 .5 months. you can never truly know another human being. never forget that.
so... it works for some people, but if you have reservations, then dont get married. put it off but stay together. you may suffer some embarrasment, but in the long run, it is better to be safe than divorced. or something.
good luck either way.
- thirtytwo0
I did it last year, I lived with her for 3 years before we got engaged. Marriage kicks ass, I love being married. There is something to be said about always having someone to come home to. Plus my wife is my best friend. I knew her for 8 years before we started dating.
As for rings... I designed her's myself. I did a Sterling Silver band with 4 square diamonds in an invisible setting, to create a huge diamond look. The total for everything was less than 2 grand. It looks like it is worth about $6500 or more.
The best advice I can give you is get the ring insured, A friend of mine lost his ring the week before he was going to pop the question. He did not have insurance so he had to buy another one...
cheers,
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- exador0
been married for 3 1/2 years now,
but together for almost 10-11 years in total.
marriage is pretty awesome..
its tough at times, and there are plenty of compromises, and there will of course be times when you question either your sanity or hers.
but, overwhelmingly, it is wonderful
there is an adjustment period, to be sure, and it takes a long while to get used to each others idiosyncracies, but it's natural and it's important to not place to much anxiety on the day to day stuff...
she can be pissed at you for not putting away your socks from the night before, and you can be pissed at her for something similarly dumb, without fear that the relationship is doomedone important thing to keep in mind is to do things together...
take some dance lessons together, or something that appeals to BOTH of you...it's a great idea, and you'll both get something out of it.all i can say is that for me marriage has been the best thing i can possibly imagine..
- drubynum0
exador, you are the most relentlessly positive person that posts here. I read much more than I post and you've always got something encouraging to say. Don't think it goes unappreciated. So, how did you propose? I'll be doing it soon and I need some ideas.
- Biofreak0
exador was the dude that got me to pull my shit together and strengthen my resolve to find a job.
he frequently renews my faith in humanity.
ex bees the man. thanks tyson for being fucking hardcore.
- Vinney20
Wheres Dita, shes happily married. Poetry is what shes got.
- maverick0
thanks to everybody for the responses to this thread. It's encouraging to hear positive words from the married folks... like I said, I'm psyched to get married and wouldn't change a thing, but sometimes I struggle and wonder if I'm cut out for it! It's so different from just dating someone and requires a lot of patience and compromise... and looking at the big picture!
- Mick0
Married two years, here's my tips...
- be patient, no more patient
- your wife will love you as much as you love her
- every morning you wake up you'll realize WHY
- trust one another
- even when you're right, sometimes its easier to be wrongps. your wedding day is going to be the best day of your life. Don't worry what happens arounf you, just know what you and yours are feeling for each other.