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    45 years old, and I'm _still_ making rookie dating mistakes.

    Weeks back, I met a woman I was *really* into. So, like the gormless numpty/emotional teenager that I am, what do I do? Instead of playing it cool, I come in way too hot; fawning over here, drowning her in compliments, texting her daily, the lot.

    Net result: she got spooked, and isn't interested anymore (she hasn't said as much, but her actions say everything they need to say).

    Now — in my defence — I hadn't dated in over five years, on account of being in a 5-year relationship up until October last year, and I'm pretty fucking rusty.

    But still ... ugh.

    So, now I'm going NC, and we'll see if that draws her out (I'm not holding my breath).

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    • I AM N00B.Continuity
    • I hear it's all about sending dick pics these days - perhaps give that a shot or six?Nairn
    • Not with my wee willy, I don't!Continuity
    • hey, you've got to hide your love awaysarahfailin
    • this was advice I got from my female cousins: "gils are like stamps, the more you spit on them the better they stick"_niko
    • as horrible as this might sound, ghost her for a while. she'll miss your attention. might work for a reset.sea_sea
    • Play it cool. Man.pango
    • thing is, if she was just as into you then she would have loved that attention. It's ok to not play it cool and be how you feel.Gnash
    • Listen to Corey Wayne on YouTube, his stuff works and deals with situations like this...robotron3k
    • what sea_sea said... OR don't play games with women who don't like how you treat them. find someone who likes you for youimbecile
    • You're dating. So there will be games. Play the games. When you stop dating, stop playing the games. Also what Seasea said.cannonball1978
    • Thanks, folks.
      Yeah, I'd decided I was going to do no contact/ghost her. If for no other reason that I see no point in investing for no return.      Continuity
    • If and when she contacts u because she'll wonder where u are. Just say something like sorry I came on strong, but I couldn't help myself you're gorgeous. Swoon.sea_sea
    • ;) good luck.sea_sea
    • Haha, sea_sea knows what's what. ;)Continuity
    • Totally feel you man. It's a mind field. I've done the same thing so many times now that I even gave up on dating last year.Ianbolton
    • Then realised most people have multiple dates on the go and just pick their favourite. I couldn't deal with that. I just wanted to meet someone new.Ianbolton
    • Let us know how you get on, but try not to overthink stuff mate.Ianbolton
    • Live stream it...pango
    • Just stop thinking you need someone else to validate you. Then you'll be healthier.robthelad
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