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- BusterBoy-2
Not sure why I'm writing this here...but I'm slightly pissed and CGAF anymore.
Pretty sure my marriage is beyond repair. Some money issues and pretty sure my wife can't stand the site of me. Can't say I'm in love with her anymore myself. Haven't had a decent conversation in ages...and she now seems to take great delight making snippy comments about me when we're in a social setting. I never react but it shits me no end.
The ONLY thing really keeping me from walking away is the kids. I don't really buy the "2 happy single parents is better than having parents live together who don't get on" theory. We don't fight in front of the kids so they are slightly oblivious. I sense they think we may not be entirely normal but life for them in 2 homes would be shithouse.
Anyway, I may change my mind on that. Hadn't really thought as far as actually making a break...but it's edging closer.
Fuck, why did I write all this?
- Shit. Sorry man.pango
- Sorry mate. Have a chat with her, even if it isn't to make things right between you.garbage
- that sucks, sorry Buster!utopian
- It's good to get it out. I bet the kids have a sense. The best thing to do is both of you need to be honest with yourselves.Hayoth
- you should get wasted with her and just let it all out. most people are not in love with their spouses but it's supposed to be a lifelong commitment...********
- ...so enjoy the suffering. At least you have someone that will be there when your old and can't get up.********
- ...or dump her.********
- hehe...sobering up now. No idea what we'll do. I'm OK waiting until the kids hit 18...only 6 more years. Ask me next year & it may be different.BusterBoy
- Like docpoz said, it's a lifelong thing, relax a bit, try not to thing on it all the day, and sometimes the problem loses importance...OBBTKN
- When my wife is in big-mouth mode, i ignore her and realizes she is being rude immediately, and shuts up.
But, fix sap this communication issue!OBBTKN - sap > asapOBBTKN
- *you're :/********
- getting wasted and talking to her is about the worst idea I've heard in a while. get proactive, go talk to someone. Money issues often lead to depression andGnash
- ... can be a huge relationship wedge.Gnash
- believe me. doing nothing will not help. you won't have the 6 years you think you do. she'll walk if you don'tGnash
- you know 'why you wrote this'? because you want -- and need -- help. Go get it, you'll feel better that you're doing something.Gnash
- Don't wait 6 years, that's hell for all of you. Get help, go to counseling and if that doesn't work then start planning your exit. Everyone deserves to be happsea_sea
- *happy. Plus getting drunk and talking will only make it worse imo. Get drunk and fuck, that on the other hand might help.sea_sea
- i think I know how you feel...valentim
- sea_sea speaks sense here.fadein11
- Busterboy. Email me please.kona
- doug@boxofsharpieskona
- i've seen marriage counseling work wonders. often it's a communication issuescarabin
- It's all about the comms man. Sort that out. Saying that my wife aint talking to me today cause I didn't invite her to my christmas work party LOL. Ignore me!HAYZ1LLLA
- sorry to hear that. there's lots of people in similar situationsCalderone2000
- Put it all on the table. It doesn't have to a fight or about blame, just tell her this is what's going through your head.i_monk
- I am NOT a trained therapist.********
- Not sure I WANT help...BusterBoy
- There, you said it. If there were no kids then I would bail asap. It usually is a huge communication problem.sea_sea
- Sorry to hear this, Buster. Feel for you. Best wishes, man. Hopefully you sort it out somehow sooner than later. Better for each and all of you in the family.Krassy
- The only advice in good for is to suggest maybe giving your kids a little more credit. Kids are far more sensitive than adults and almost certainly...********
- ... aren't oblivious to it, even if it's on a subconscious level.********