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- monNom0
By the sounds of it, your relationship has developed into a sort of parent-child dynamic. If you're the sole breadwinner and she is reliant on you for everything, it reduces her status in the relationship. Look at how teenagers treat their parents, does that look familiar?
In an unequal partnership you inevitable end up with feelings of resentment that can spiral into self destructive and rebellious behaviour.You can either break it off, or if you're willing to keep trying, see if her getting out and earning for herself helps to shape things up. This gives her economic power in the relationship, a sense of worth and self esteem, and may result in those current issues melting away.
...or you could just be living with an alcoholic perma-child that will never ever change. The willingness to work at it is the determining factor.
my $0.02