cry for help inspired by first legal-criminal issues/battles
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- DRIFTMONKEY0
OP, it could be worse. Read this.
- quack0
the colloquial term for your situation here might be... you've made your bed, now lay in it
- why kick a man when he's down? there's no point in it even if you think you're right.bigtrickagain
- fuck yourself and stop helping him feel sorry for himself. there are avoidable circumstancesquack
- no one is helping him feel sorry for himself - he asked for help in getting his ego back, more or less.bigtrickagain
- also, why are you always an indiscriminate dick?bigtrickagain
- bigtrickagain0
it sounds like you're a freelancer in whatever it is that you do. so, the charges against you won't really affect your work, as you don't have an employer requiring that you disclose any felonies, yes?
so, your net loss in this case seems to be:
1 macintosh
your pridethe mac is just a computer, man. it can be replaced with a little time. and your pride is probably harder to fix, but this thread is already full of excellent advice on how to do it (:
all your skills, all your family, all your health, are intact. keep your chin up and you'll be back at 100% in short order. good luck!
- your right this thread is full of great advice and i highly appreciate it. my... pride im working on.applepirate
- monospaced0
Hahaha. What did you do to piss this dude off? Did you seriously find disturbing stuff and share it with his wife? That's not very smart. Did you seriously get involved, personally, with a client's private life? You clearly aren't telling the whole story.
And, why did you get into a fist fight with a senior citizen?
- the stuff i found wasnt something you let slide. and the client was like family... known since i was 7yrs oldapplepirate
- I seemonospaced
- kult0
You don't have a single piece of work left from your portfolio at all? Why would you not be saving your work online, on a website, or any one of the thousands of free hosts out there?
- i have bits and pieces. just not the stuff im proud of which was mainly for bands + personalapplepirate
- exador10
like most of the rest of us here, i suggest that you get to work son....work at building your confidence, work at building back the life you thought you had...
there's plenty of options available for you....as far as computers, you can get access to plenty of computer time at libraries and other community centers....don't have Adobe?..suck it up and use sumopaint.com or one of the many apps on aviary.com....they're not Adobe, but shit, if it's not a print job, you can actually do some decent work on those things....build up a bit of a portfolio again, but save that shit son...save it!....also, in 9 years of work, I'm guessing that SOMEWHERE on these internets is atleast a few URLS that bare your work...get em, print em, save them..whatever man...just start assembling a folio..however you need to do it....
start doing that, then build a plan for pounding the pavement and getting a new gig....surely in the past 9 years you've worked with someone that can either A) throw you some freelance work, or B) direct you to someone that can.....let's be honest here...if you've worked for that long, you've assembled an arsenal of skills and talent...that shit doesn't just fly away....it' doesn't disappear ,....it's still in you dude....you are STILL employable....so be positive man....if you still have both hands, and can still operate a mouse or a computer, you're STILL IN THE GAME!...you just took an inning out......that's all....
most cities and town's have some kind of business help centers or something...places where entrepenuers or small businesses can go for advice/assistance etc....a lot of these folks have needs for such things as logos/branding/small ads/business cards/ web sites/ shit like that...make your services available to them...just that alone can help build back your day to day life..having some real work to do, etc....
don't ditch the girlfriend....and don't be a downer either....just imagine how shit things would have been for you without her!...you OWE her son....and owe her big time for picking up your sorry ass and trying to help you...so now you owe it to everyone to live up to all their hardwork, by getting back on the horse and giving it your all....which you can do....no question about it....
show her son how a real man earns his way in life....by not feeling sorry for himself, and by NEVER giving up....also...exercise...go for walks with the family ....fix supper for them....clean the house up...in short, make your self useful and put a smile on their faces....this is no time to mope about....this is time to make things right....
now get going dude....there's plenty of advice and ideas and options in this thread....make a list, plan your attack and show your girlfriend and her son how they did the right thing by believing in you....
- applepirate0
this is obviously a deeply personal matter and i now after some sleep + encouraging words from the forum + enjoying a beautiful day outside with my dog... i am feeling pretty foolish for bringing this to QBN.
mental health is something i have always stuggled with and i guess being public about such an issue was my only coping skill at the moment. i was really worried at what kind of reactions the post would create but i am very thankful for the resounding positivity.
thank you again.
- identity0
in all seriousness - drop everything you're thinking about doing, KINDLY leave your girlfriend, sell all your belongings and join the peace corps for a 2 year stint.
I have a friend who did JUST THIS and it completely transformed his life and today he succesfuly runs his own two-person design shop and couldn't be happier! Think about it, it will be HARD work, but you get to contribute for people WAY worse off than you all day (gleening satisfaction from all the wonderful things you have done) and you dont have to worry about money/shelter, because they provide it all.
Give it a shot man - what else do you have to lose?
- i dono about leaving his girl - she seems to be good people.bigtrickagain
- peace corps is actually VERY selective...mrghost
- like mrghost said. they are VERY selective. it's not just as easy as throwing in your name. especially being a designer.lvl_13
- applepirate0
identity- i have thought about actually. honestly it sounds amazing.
- i am now obligated to do what the state of texas probation office tells me to do for the next 12-24mnthsapplepirate
- meh - apparently its not hard to get INTO the country - the probably arent looking for people trying to get OUT...identity
- identity0
I think if you're considering suicide - a drastic shift in goals, location, purpose, people and lifestyle may be what's in order... Just a thought man - there's no ONE RIGHT solution :-D
glad to hear you're feeling a bit better today! Dogs and sunshine have a way of turning around shitty situations...
- Peter0
Don't be such a drama queen.
I kid. What Amicus, Fax_Benson and many others said / followed up with.
Let me show you how ridiculous life is using Rocky 6's words:
"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that! I'm always gonna love you no matter what. No matter what happens. You're my son and you're my blood. You're the best thing in my life. But until you start believing in yourself, ya ain't gonna have a life. Don't forget to visit your mother. "So there you have it. Visit your mother, son.
- my mom is the one who told the dude where to find me. she wont be happy with me until im in church 3x a week and in rehab for pot :(applepirate
- rehab for my past self medicated high level THC intake. i have no family or friends other then my gfapplepirate
- quack0
- i understand that this thread needed at least 5% of this kind of reaction. thanks for returning to add more!applepirate
- you've been a cock in so many threads, be happy it's just me you whiny bitch ;)quack
- quack, you're a piece of shitsequoia
- quack isn't a dick. go back through the QBN historical tapes and you'll see the truth.lambsy
- applepirate0
i have made enough mistakes in my life to whittle my network of friends and family down to a landscape of burnt bridges. I never thought that a late night post in desperation to a forum that i used to make trouble with when i was wasted and typing with jameson pumping thru my veins would be such a savior.
I can not thank QBN enough. quack aside ;) you guys have given me some really inspiring words of encouragement. even some that came of as discouraging at first in my over sensitive desperation have now been able to be viewed with a bit of hindsight and i appreciate the harshness of the "could be worse" reply.
If you know anyone that ever comes to you in a time of need and says they are depressed/suicidal/at wits end.... just remember that some very simple kind words can be all it takes to bring that person off the ledge.
- hektor9110
hey man listen to this...
- scarabin0
call up places you've applied to in the past and see if they have copies of your book? PDF even?
- thats a good call!
have you ever sent anything out through attachments too? check back through your sent mail.identity - I figured that was a given.monospaced
- thats a good call!
- OSFA0
Dude it could be worse. At least you're still young and healthy. There are so many positive things you can do... and I like ideal's idea... Try focusing on helping people that are in a worse situation, think of others instead of you and your current issues, perhaps this will help you as a person, give you a different perspective and allow you to come back and start fresh again when you are ready.
Chin up man, it can only get better!! Good luck and keep us posted ;)