Divorce just got ugly
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- ukit0
Honestly, can you really expect a divorce to go smooth?
Whatever you're going through, I'm sure it's inevitable
- airey0
shit, really sorry to hear it man.
some divorces do go smooth but the percentages must be waayyyyy down on that.
- how can you have such a stupid note ^ then a cool comment here? sorry about the fucknut commentcapn_ron
- Airey's humour must be appreciated in conjunction with knowing he's one of our best men.raf
- He'll fly over the Pacific at his own cost to sleep with her mom for you, that's the kind of friend he is.raf
- yeah, i got that when he wrote this < nice comment. Sorry airey, you're not so bad.capn_ron
- srry man, just tried to lighten the mood above. obviously you're a tad tender understandably!airey
- *high five to airey, i guess i am tender right now. I hate that i have to admit that.capn_ron
- satogami0
hi capn... sorry to hear, i recently went thru a divorce as well. what i had thought we were doing was an amicable divorce, we were going to be separated for 1 year then just goto a judge and have our marriage all-nulled but to my surprise i was served, in a nasty way too, i mean its laughable how it happened it was liek pineapple express d00d aasking me my name to confirm the handoff and him saying he is just the messenger... meh... well that was last year... and thus the process started of lawyer to lawyer... the entire process for us {New York State} 1.5 years... its a long prrocess and i think ours got rushed thru the cracks... in that time my ex wife and i werent speaking but we stilled respected each other... i speak to her once a month... her best friend is still my best friend so its all a big happy mess for everyone...
my advice to you is to focus on you... if you have to hold in the pain do that, if you have to cry it out do that, if you have to go and punch a punching bag go do that!!! also if she is asking for anything just give it... money material things is worthless... and holding on makes it that much more painful to let go... and i have not let go yet... meh but im a fool i guess... i know we wont get back to gether but i still love my ex... its a hard day by day... and its going to get harder as the time goes on... i dont want to candy coat it... get ready for some intense emotions, you havent seen anything yet... take care and smoke a fatty... do you guys btw have children? if yes my wishes go to them...if not then its for the better..
good luck nt brother!!!
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- also we were married 10 years and 2 days ago was my anniversary of 11 years...satogami
- so i know what you going thru and im in your corner!!!satogami
- no kids, thankfully. I appreciate your experienced words. I am going to focus on me and try to be civil with her.capn_ron
- October 11th is my birthday and the 29th would have been 4 full years of marraigecapn_ron
- really thanks again. I appreciate it.capn_ron
- thats the best thing. it will make it easier to transition in moving on and getting laid..satogami
- jesus christ, go have a beer on us satogami, this has gotta be a shit week for you buddy.airey
- thanks airey... i respect that and will take you on that advice.satogami
- its all good i got all my frustration out on the Levi's blog guy... hahaha ...satogami
- cannonball19780
divorce goes south when the unhappily married couple starts deciding who is owed what
- supersalzman0
This might help:
- "In my opinion, if you want happiness, don’t go looking for it in marriage" great quotecapn_ron
- ukit0
"In 2008, 46% of all marriages involve a remarriage for one or both spouses. It is estimated that 40% of all marriages have ended in divorce as of 2008."
- stagering numbers. Why do we wed then? is it engraved in our culture to be happy people?capn_ron
- weddings are stem from religious practices. they are completely archaic and unnecessary.iCanHazQBN
- Super_Black0
Sorry to hear this, Capn_Ron... and don't apologize for a second about initiating a thread like this (because it's not "design related").
If we as a community can't be there in support of each other for whatever serious curve-balls life throws at us, then who gives a fuck about anyone's opinion here on the usage of Pantone® 319 uncoated versus 3105 uncoated.
I sincerely hope everything gets sorted as smooth as possible, and you'll be able to move forward to the next stage of your life in the most positive fashion.
- capn_ron0
Thank you SB! i try to be hear as a person for others and hope they would do the same. Take a look at this thread and they are being really cool. I really do appreciate you digital friends here on QBN.
- raf0
I know a couple who run a business together after they split up, but I am sure I would do all I could in order to part ways. But everyone and their situation is different.. (and yet it's the same old story that happened millions times before)
- cannonball19780
Advice:
Get some strange.
- Arvizu0
People treat divorce like it’s death. And it’s not. It’s another life. It would be truly sad if the couple were happy and desperately in love and then they got divorced. But no good marriage ever ends in divorce, only the bad ones. Anyway, that's what Louis C.K had to say about the topic.
- scarabin0
also, listen to this song.
it's the ultimate breakup song for men.
- satogami0
at least now you can talk to other girls and even take them back to your place and make them scream your name over and over ...maybe even go move to chicago and move above mg33 and find some chicks and make them scream your name so he can make a new thread about that nt guy who makes the city know he is getting on with his life... go do it !!! and go get some condoms!!! go re-learn that whole mess... oi!!!
- ghandolf0
http://www.maniacworld.com/are-y…
Stay strong. This will all be behind you some day.
"Oh Blah Di, Oh Blah Da, La la how the life goes on..."
- CALLES0
sorry to hear man. take a couple of thing that you would like to burn to the bonfire(it's ok not to be environmentally conscious in moments like this) being a little bit of a pyro might help
- < thisscarabin
- Fucking great advice. A little late for me, but there will be more bonfires.capn_ron
- NO-NO. NO FIRES IN CALI. THANK YOU!akrokdesign
- :-Pakrokdesign
- heavyt0
man, i read the initial post and said to myself - "this dude is pissed cuz his wife who he is divorcing met a new guy"
sure enough, that is the case.
on one hand - you cant expect she wouldnt meet guys since you are getting divorced
on the other - you shouldnt expect to be BFFs with a woman you are divorcing.
I guess this is all just reality smacking you in the nads.
sorry, dude.
- dMullins0
Two of my good friends are going through a messy separation right now, and boy do I mean messy. Let me explain.
Group of friends. New guy starts hanging out with group of friends. Husband is leery of this guy, on general principle, cause he is very blatantly a man-whore. Tells wife to avoid him, for his own sanity. Wife obliges, but not for long... New friend and wife start hanging out one-on-one. People start noticing. New friend is confronted, says he's sorry and didn't know it was an issue, and that he just has lots friends, both guys and gals. Couple weeks later, another friend in the group catches the new friend and the guy fucking each other's brains out in a back bedroom of another mutual friend's apartment.
Husband is irate, girlfriend has resigned to not caring anymore because she knows she fucked up big time, but they also had a bunch of other issues previous to this. They argue all the time lately, and decide to separate for a few weeks to let things settle down. Finally, girlfriend has a "come to Jesus" moment, or so the husband thinks, as she invites him back over to their house for a night of talking and make-up sex. Things get hot and heavy. She says, "I wanna try something new to spice things up, make this work between us." Pulls out two pairs of handcuffs. Husband is into that, gets tied up to the bed, completely prone. Girlfriend lets him fuck her to climax. Then she does the unthinkable and shits on his chest, tells him, "That's for XYZ" or whatever her reason was. Leaves him there with shit on his chest.
Housemate comes home to hear husband screaming for help. Housemate comes in and falls out laughing, etc.
Story gets told to me, and I'm asked not to tell anyone. Well haha, I figure I just told at least 100 people on here, but at least none of you know these people. My bad, bro!
- 100 people?... shit i'm going to tell 100 people that story.prophet0NE
- loldMullins
- epicscarabin
- W
T
F?
I clearly live a sheltered life.BusterBoy - fucking golden.airey
- New friend and the guy fucking each other's brains out?raf
- Id knock her fucking teeth out.mikotondria3