Divorce just got ugly
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- dbloc0
TAKE DOWN THE ENGAGEMENT WEBSITE
- dbloc0
got a buddy that is going through it right now...sucks!
He used to never leave the house, now he goes out just about every night.
- baseline_shift0
My advice would be dont let this make you resent women. Some bitch broke my heart a couple years ago, and i was messed up for months. During this period of heartache, i somehow came to resent women, especially pretty ones. It took like a year or two to get out of this rut.
During this 'rut' i had a tough time meeting and attracting women. Especially good ones. I wound up only interacting with subpar ladies, and having one night stands, which ultimately made me resent them more.
Let me assure you, they are not all venomous, heart breaking succubi. Take some time to yourself, get in good shape, smoke a ton of pot, spend time with good friends and fam. Do some paintings or learn to play guitar or something. Be productive. Get your head straight, and the nice girls will follow.
- capn_ron0
Hey everyone, you guys really outdid yourselves. I still feel like shit today, but I have had more smiles on my face catching up on what everyone said here than normal.
Just to catch you up, my friends had a bonfire for me last night and it was perfect. The funny thing is that we didn't even drink, we just sat, watched fire and shot the shit. I am realizing the more I talk about it the less pressure on my chest.
So I want to offer a huge hug to everyone who chimed in on this thread. You all made today a better day than yesterday and I appreciate it.
- blaw0
Very sorry, good Captain. Glad to hear your friends have stepped up—that is their job; good that you're letting them do it.
Feel better, sir, and good luck.
- baseline_shift0
oh yeah, and think about how awesome it is that you dont have to change your name back or whatever. Thats cause you are a/the MAN!
- Amicus0
Listen to the Cure. A little bit of Robert Smith melancholia dressed up with some seriously beautiful melodies will let you grieve for what you've lost but give you some hope for the future.
(well, it worked for me anyways)
PS - the intro for Love Cats always gets me in a better mood with the first three seconds.
- OSFA0
Damn Ron, that sucks man!! I really hope things work out between you two and if not together, at least as friends. Keep yo chin up brotha!!
- Amicus0
Not sure if you are still reading this, but if you are Cap'n. I understand what you are going through. It took me a year to get over my separation and start dating again. I'm twice the person I was then, and much happier for it. I'm glad you don't have kids, cause they suffer the most in a break up.
Make sure you get out and exercise lots. Get the endorphin high, and if nothing else, at least you'll be looking good when you do get back to dating.
- joelski0
I broke up with my lady a few weeks back after 3 year relationship...It was marry her or move to NYC....we had issues...I had the rest of my life to think about...she wasn't willing to come to ny...secretly the thought of being a single man in NYC was much more exciting:)....moral of the story....enjoy the open waters of being selfish man while you can....love will find you again if you are happy with your own life
- I think the moral is, if you aren't sure, don't do it.Amicus
- Milan0
time cures everything, every day that goes by, you'll feel much better about the situation
- iCanHazQBN0
please see Chick of the Day thread
- sorry, good luck with your deal. you'll get through it no matter how hard it seems.iCanHazQBN
- lol, what a shitty attempt at trying to give a damn. i'll step out now.iCanHazQBN
- no, that was good. I still check that thread out religiously. thanks.capn_ron
- nocomply0
Hey Ron so sorry to hear that man, but sounds like you're hanging in there. Maybe another QBN drink night is in order to make up for the alcohol you missed out on at the bonfire.
- raf0
A lot of the emotions related to what you're going through have physical roots. Splitting with someone close alters your brain chemistry. In this respect it is similar to having someone close die. You're likely drugged with hormones now. I remember I was full of adrenaline for a week after a bad breakup and the good outcome was it would get me so tired I'd sleep at night easily, despite chasing thoughts in my head.
Current situation is actually good - it will help you forget about the idea of running a business together. It is possible that it would work, but I'd advise against it. If you have no kids, there is no reason you should meet more often than once in a few years.
And one thing - in a year or two you will be like new, happier than ever before. Give it some time, that's all :)
- CALLES0
its true about time! you will be ok!
- sofakingbanned0
Sorry to hear things are not going so well.
If you're feeling down and need some one to kick it with I'm right around the corner. Another SD QBN drinks sounds like a great idea. I'm down whenever.
- k0na_an0k0
i can make this all go away for $50 and a bean burrito from taco bell.
seriously though. i can't say that i know what you're going through or how hard it must be, i can only give you this bit of advice... what would tyler durden do? then go from there.
best wishes capn_ron.