Divorce just got ugly
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- Countryman0
It sounds like your really upset. This is OK, believe it or not feelings are a regular part of the human experience. Those who are angry and spiteful and try to hurt one another are really just feeling a sense of insecurity they are trying to make up for. Maybe your ex really knows she relies on you emotionally or something and is having a hard time with the fact that its not going to be there anymore.
If its over over over, I suggest you just focus on your feelings acknowedge them & try to get over it while your ex spin her wheels until shes out of steam. After shes expended all her energy and is getting no where she will probably break down.
I guess you just got to do what you got to do at this point and let her live her own life without worrying about her.
- BusterBoy0
If you are dead set on going down that path, cut the ties ASAP mate. You don't want to live in a relationship that's like a cancer. Take the moral high ground - don't get involved in the petty squabbles and you'll feel much better. If she wants to talk about the 'dates', let her. Don't take the bait.
And take the 'Engagement' stuff out of your portfolio! ;)
- Very Fucking True! Engagement stuff comes out tonight.capn_ron
- capn_ron0
Countryman,
Those words are how I am going to try the next few months. I am giving up the fact that i can worry about what she does anymore. She is her own person and needs to do what she wants. At the same point, so am I. I need to focus on me and do what I want. It is just really tough when i feel physical pain from the emotions that are running through me. So much pain and my brain hasn't stopped thinking about it since it started. I think I may need to take some drugs at some point so I can get a good nights sleep while thinking about other pretty colors and objects.
- jnnbugg0
One thing that helped me during a bad breakup was to hear that it was OK to cry, or get mad. Don't fight the emotions, go with them.
- TheBlueOne0
Not to make light, as heartbreak and disillusion is a fucking shitty place to be, but there's always words of wisdom in this song, no matter how unreal the delivery.
- supersalzman0
You guys are past the kiss and make-up stage for sure. I suggest you have her do some layouts for you on your favourite desk.
That'll fix everything.
- cannonball19780
both designers huh?
(over tumbler of scotch)
"Bitch took the pantone key AND the eames recliner"- Yeah, we have a lot of tools to split up. And books.capn_ron
- ukit0
Honestly, can you really expect a divorce to go smooth?
Whatever you're going through, I'm sure it's inevitable
- airey0
shit, really sorry to hear it man.
some divorces do go smooth but the percentages must be waayyyyy down on that.
- how can you have such a stupid note ^ then a cool comment here? sorry about the fucknut commentcapn_ron
- Airey's humour must be appreciated in conjunction with knowing he's one of our best men.raf
- He'll fly over the Pacific at his own cost to sleep with her mom for you, that's the kind of friend he is.raf
- yeah, i got that when he wrote this < nice comment. Sorry airey, you're not so bad.capn_ron
- srry man, just tried to lighten the mood above. obviously you're a tad tender understandably!airey
- *high five to airey, i guess i am tender right now. I hate that i have to admit that.capn_ron
- satogami0
hi capn... sorry to hear, i recently went thru a divorce as well. what i had thought we were doing was an amicable divorce, we were going to be separated for 1 year then just goto a judge and have our marriage all-nulled but to my surprise i was served, in a nasty way too, i mean its laughable how it happened it was liek pineapple express d00d aasking me my name to confirm the handoff and him saying he is just the messenger... meh... well that was last year... and thus the process started of lawyer to lawyer... the entire process for us {New York State} 1.5 years... its a long prrocess and i think ours got rushed thru the cracks... in that time my ex wife and i werent speaking but we stilled respected each other... i speak to her once a month... her best friend is still my best friend so its all a big happy mess for everyone...
my advice to you is to focus on you... if you have to hold in the pain do that, if you have to cry it out do that, if you have to go and punch a punching bag go do that!!! also if she is asking for anything just give it... money material things is worthless... and holding on makes it that much more painful to let go... and i have not let go yet... meh but im a fool i guess... i know we wont get back to gether but i still love my ex... its a hard day by day... and its going to get harder as the time goes on... i dont want to candy coat it... get ready for some intense emotions, you havent seen anything yet... take care and smoke a fatty... do you guys btw have children? if yes my wishes go to them...if not then its for the better..
good luck nt brother!!!
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- also we were married 10 years and 2 days ago was my anniversary of 11 years...satogami
- so i know what you going thru and im in your corner!!!satogami
- no kids, thankfully. I appreciate your experienced words. I am going to focus on me and try to be civil with her.capn_ron
- October 11th is my birthday and the 29th would have been 4 full years of marraigecapn_ron
- really thanks again. I appreciate it.capn_ron
- thats the best thing. it will make it easier to transition in moving on and getting laid..satogami
- jesus christ, go have a beer on us satogami, this has gotta be a shit week for you buddy.airey
- thanks airey... i respect that and will take you on that advice.satogami
- its all good i got all my frustration out on the Levi's blog guy... hahaha ...satogami
- cannonball19780
divorce goes south when the unhappily married couple starts deciding who is owed what
- supersalzman0
This might help:
- "In my opinion, if you want happiness, don’t go looking for it in marriage" great quotecapn_ron
- ukit0
"In 2008, 46% of all marriages involve a remarriage for one or both spouses. It is estimated that 40% of all marriages have ended in divorce as of 2008."
- stagering numbers. Why do we wed then? is it engraved in our culture to be happy people?capn_ron
- weddings are stem from religious practices. they are completely archaic and unnecessary.iCanHazQBN
- Super_Black0
Sorry to hear this, Capn_Ron... and don't apologize for a second about initiating a thread like this (because it's not "design related").
If we as a community can't be there in support of each other for whatever serious curve-balls life throws at us, then who gives a fuck about anyone's opinion here on the usage of Pantone® 319 uncoated versus 3105 uncoated.
I sincerely hope everything gets sorted as smooth as possible, and you'll be able to move forward to the next stage of your life in the most positive fashion.
- capn_ron0
Thank you SB! i try to be hear as a person for others and hope they would do the same. Take a look at this thread and they are being really cool. I really do appreciate you digital friends here on QBN.
- raf0
I know a couple who run a business together after they split up, but I am sure I would do all I could in order to part ways. But everyone and their situation is different.. (and yet it's the same old story that happened millions times before)
- cannonball19780
Advice:
Get some strange.