Why would you ask?
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- Rand0
so, are you married or divorced?
- Meeklo0
No offense to you shellie,
I'm just sad to see those are the things that matter to you, when you said, you always dated guys that make less than you, you ovbiously care about that stuff, there is a lot of ways you can be a gentleman without having to go to the money issue, from flowers for no given reason on a random day, to a nice compliment.I'm more than happy to pay for a dinner, or lunch, or whatever, but I believe sometimes, girls want to to that too, i just dont believe that macho thing you know?
To me, that kind of thing is a huge turn off, and maybe it was too for your friend.
Specially if he is not from LA, you might not noticed cause you are used to talk like that with your friends maybe.Maybe I'm wrong and I misspelled your posts, the truth is I don't know you, but it just sounds like that to me.
- uberdesigner0
I pay 95% of the time, because of this I expect at least a bj on the first date. Shellie, let's go on a date.
- brandelec0
a lot of people are frugal by nature, and you're right, they probably don't know it.
fuck it, you live once, its the company you're with, last thing to worry about is the bill
- shellie0
Exactly brandelec... BUT there are so many guys that aren't like that.
I was talking to a girlfriend about that a few days ago. She's been with her boyfriend now for 4 or 5 years and the only thing she complains about (and what will probably end up being one of those things she throws in his face when they break up one day) is the fact that hes so selfish when it comes to things like that. I dont even think he knows that he does it.
- shellie0
Also tara, girls can take a guy out too. But then its like "Hey, I'm taking YOU out tonight." I've done that before and I don't mind. But, if they ask YOU to go out, it seems as though they would take care of you for the night.
I have one person in mind that I know, who is a notorious with going Dutch. I think that a lot of times the guys who are like that, also go dutch in a lot of ways in the relationship, emotionally and otherwise. He only goes half way.
- brandelec0
i always figured I asked the girl out on a date, so I would be paying for it.
- grafholic0
almost every guy ive dated makes less than i do. Or if they do make more at first, they dont for long. hah.
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HAHAHAHAHA, i had to support my ex-husband financially when we got divorced, for like a year.then he makes more than me now, bitch.
- shellie0
No tara, thats not true. It doesnt matter how much money a guy makes, there's things he can do to just be a gentleman.
Not that I ever really care or look to be taken care of. I never have that in mind...
But when a check for a dinner on a date comes to the table and they ask you to split it.. its like ??
If your date is worth taking out, you should be ready to sarifice buying an extra pair of nikes or a new record to take a girl out to dinner if you think she's worth taking out in the first place.
That just makes sense to me.
There are always acceptions to the rule, but ive noticed if you are doing okay for yourself, guys throw the usual dating rules out the window because theyre cheap and selfish.
- shellie0
ohh.. kOna, is it like when that girl stabbed her friend with a kitchen knife for taking her ball?
gansta chillens.
- eficks0
perhaps read the thread
- Tara0
you're contradicting yourself shellie. at first you say you don't care what he does but then go on to say that the guy should always pay for dinner even if they make less than you. now it doesn't sound like this guy could afford to take you out to dinner all the time.
- anzelina0
iDp took me out in vegas, did a good job of being a gentleman
- tonx0
Shellie I just reread your first post....the fact that you guys didn'y hook up before AND your confusion now could be a clear indicator that although there is an attraction, there may be no chemistry.
chemistry is key and hard to find, attraction is like breathing, it's everywhere you just don't think about it...
I learned this from a hooker so it has got to be true...
- uberdesigner0
blah blah blah
Has that ever happened to any of you?
shellie
(Jun 22 05, 10:58)
-----------------------------No offense, but you seem like one of those gold digging chicks who rich guys fuck and chuck. You'd better at least be really good in bed or something.
- todelete__20
shellie. if you recieve a soda can with duct tape over the top in the mail it's a few shots of my babie makers.
you know what to do with it when it gets there.
in no time we'll have a few little konas running around stabbing things in the house.
- brandelec0
shellie, can you take me out on date haha i keed
- shellie0
almost every guy ive dated makes less than i do. Or if they do make more at first, they dont for long. hah.
the only thing that sucks about that, is they expect you to go dutch on everything. Now thats just not right. Who makes their girl pay for dinner??
Tips for yall:
- Let the girl offer to pay for lunch, but never for dinner. Unless its a special occasion.- She should never pay for her vallet. For god's sake it's only 5 dollars. Take care of it doods.
Guys have forgotten the art of a good date. But of course, if you start off that way you cant just up and stop once youre really "dating" dating.
- piperboytoy0
I think he feels embarrassed. He'll probably not call you.
It's funny because I've talked to girls and most of them want the guy to support them and won't date guys who make less than they do.
Maybe he's experienced that before and thought you would be like that. Given your drive for success.
- shellie0
its because i want to birth your babies kOna.