life is trying to screw me
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moved to a new city where i know no one. Girlfriend and I of 3 years called it quits. Broke my left big toe which will likely need surgery cause it's split down vertically through the joints. Podiatrist of 30 years said he'd never in his life seen a fracture like it. Did it doing something I loved - skiing and not sure when I'll be able to ski again. While I hit the tree, I also managed to bash in my right knee which will need an MRI, possibly torn, but don't have money for it. Managed to do all of this while in middle of switching health insurance, so I'm getting fucked by the U.S. health care system. Got my identity stolen. I also can't get or receive any mail from my new address, and I have no idea where it is going to, cause I've had 7 different addresses in the past 4 years ( college student, did some internships in different places ). Yes, I filed for a change of address 3 weeks. The U.S. postal service doesn't have any phone numbers for actual delivery locations, so it's nearly impossible to find out where everything is being held. My life is falling apart piece by piece. I have no idea why I'm posting this here.... probably because all of my actual friends are 1500 miles away...
Has anyone ever been in a situation like this? If so, what did you do to dig yourself out of a rut/depressed state such as this?
- cosmo0
hang in there buddy, things will pick up again. everyone goes through a shitty period in life, just hang in there.
- AndyRoss0
Things will be different in a week.
- Melanie0
I have been in a bad place like that too. I ran away from it and ended up in Holland for 2 and a half years. If it's any consolation, you're going to look back in 2 years time and realize that you made it through and you're a stronger and wiser person for it.
- ********0
i've had major shit, now i am good. just be humble, be kind, be positive, be loving and all will come together.. it sounds shit to someone in the ditch but it is fucking true. chin up, mate
- homeostatic0
Yeah... Nearly everybody goes through such a time—especially if you've been bold and taken risks, which it sounds like you have been doing. Personally, I found consolation in art (books, films, etc.). For some reason misery made me extra receptive to some amazing genius out there. Oh and while I would not recommend it for everyone, moving totally out of the country can be a great reprieve—particularly to somewhere more low tempo and without all the modern hustle of American life. During such a sojourn, you might find that foreign girls will make you totally oblivious to the memory of your ex. There's just something about a Finnish girl in a saunas or a croatian bartender at a beachside dive that can take all your pain away.
- "Personally, I found consolation in art (books, films, etc." hear, hear!! my religion too.********
- ''Personally, I found consolation in art (books, films, etc.).'' and girls in saunasjimzyk
- "Personally, I found consolation in art (books, films, etc." hear, hear!! my religion too.
- ********0
Ah - it's always about girls.
- Even Moscow is about girls...********
- true....especially when something is like 98% male.Jaline
- ...a forum, I mean.
Who am I kidding? I would talk about girls too...Jaline - 98%? good heavens, I thought I was the only male around.********
- heh, you wish :)Jaline
- that ratio is really weird - given that design, arts etc are not properly an exclusive male area of work. like trucks!********
- although most pics posted here would perfectly fit a truck's cabin.********
- Even Moscow is about girls...
- ********0
it's funny i thought about moving out of the country for long time now, but something just held me back. i've always loved europe, but the job market seems to be harder to break through over there
- tried the netherlands? there's a shortage of almost any sort of staff on the jobmarket here..********
- London is quite easy. And you'll find doors wide open with a folio like yoursFariska
- ... and you will not have another language to learn, like I did.Fariska
- but there's plenty of work for english speaking people in amsterdam as well!********
- tried the netherlands? there's a shortage of almost any sort of staff on the jobmarket here..
- ninjasavant0
With some patience, this too will pass. I've been exactly where you're at right now and I can tell you it gets better. Hang in there.
- pr20
- ********0
I've been in a similar situation (still am a bit). It's just the ups and downs of life, dude. Don't torture yourself like I did because it consumes all your energies and you lose focus and work-habits. Just move on and keep a clear head.
- easier said than done!********
- Yes it is... but it's also the thing to hold on to. Sleeping properly, rising early, you know... healthy stuff.********
- until someday something nice happens and you're fit to recognize it - which won't happen if you're weary.********
- easier said than done!
- chossy0
When things like this happen in my life, I think of people who live in fear every day, people who can't drink clean water, people who don't have any chance in the world and whatever chances they did have get torn away from them violently and remorselessly. This makes me realise that I pretty much have it amazingly,
your toe will heal
whats for ye 'll no gan ye by
goverment things take time
getting your identity stolen is better than a mother fucker ransacking your smelly pants drawer.- What' s for ye'll no go by ye. :)
My Mum used to say that to me. Thanks for putting a smile on my face.Melanie
- What' s for ye'll no go by ye. :)
- homeostatic0
I recommend the following two blessed nations:
Ukraine
Sweden
- that sure is a hot fella, on that ukrainian beach.********
- Sweet. Them sweds love to fuck, yar********
- That's it, Im moving.weave
- pinky has clown tits********
- that sure is a hot fella, on that ukrainian beach.
- ********0
thanks for the slight cheer up homeostatic
- Llyod0
that sure is a lot of numb3rs
- woodyBatts0
hey bud,
sorry to hear you trouble, when i moved to NYC a few years back, something on the simialr happened to me, save the medical situation. Which totally sucks.What I did was make of list of all the things I needed to straighten out, made a plan, gave myself a deadline. Also b/c I was a bit depressed and drinking a little too much, I cut all alcohol off and hit the gym as much as possible. Now this was all in a 4 year period but it really help me get everything on track and to come out stronger.
Now I'm pretty acceptive of the fact that bad things happen to good people, but now I know that i can pull through.
Wish you the Best!
- studderine0
hey man im really sorry about that. my best advice is think where you will be at in another year or so. you'll look back and see how strong you really are. my gf had her identity stolen and its a long messy process to clean it up. just make sure you put a lock on your social security number via one of those credit reporting companies. i lost my social security in tempe when i was 21 and someone tried to apply for a few cards with my social. sure enough, they sent me a letter in the mail and stopped 'em. keep it up man, you are young.
- Dancer0
Mpve to the UK. Healthcare is free... :)
Seriously though: good luck and as others said work through it and brightness, knowledge, and respect will only ensue
- zaq0
The lower you fall, the higher you'll get.
- ismith0
Separate yourself from a material mindset. Or find some friends/family who can help you get your shit together.