Relationship Advice
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- prodigalslacker0
joining this a little late. coming from a similar situation sort of.
i'll just say that the girl i dated and had that, as you said 'magic' with - everything from then on gets compared to her. inadvertently, without intent, but instantly gets compared to her.
until i find someone that knocks me on my ass as much as she did, just by entering a room, i fear i'll never be as happy as i possibly could be. and it sucks.
good luck, miss brooke.
- Boz0
Brooke, if you say that this guy is really sincere and good as he is, I don't think it's fair that you stay with him if you feel the way you feel. I believe that if you don't feel completed with a person and have that "magic" as you said, it's not fair to go on and stretch the whole thing just to see if that magic might happen. Usually the magic is not there if you don't feel it from the beginning and if it's not there it will eventually lead to a break up. At least that's how it is with me.
Especially if he's a good guy and really deserves to be with someone who can give him complete attention and sincerity. I think you already know what to do.
You know best in your heart if you really really click with him or not. Another thing is, down the line, you might meet the "magic" guy again and you will definitely start thinking again about how good you really get along with the current boyfriend. I don't know, I pretty much suck at relationships. but I'm just looking from the perspective of your current boyfriend. I wouldn't like to be with a person that has in one way or the other reservations towards our relationship.
I wish you resolve it and stay happy.
- joyride0
i think i wanna buy something really really expensive. that'll make me feel better.
tkmeister
(Mar 17 06, 12:41)This will fix you right up, it's where I got mine =)
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- Jaline0
I didn't see this thread before...
I can't give you any advice b/c I've never been in a really serious relationship, but good luck!
- _salisae_0
most find true love once maaayyybe twice in their lives
- canuck0
move on, it's going to be summer soon. good time to be single.
- robotron3k0
sounds like he just needs a fashion makeover for you to get the hots for him again. that's all.
- c_valencia0
....get a cat.
- tkmeister0
joyride,
you are making me become a self-indulgent single guy.
- ross0
What is this "romance" you speak of?
- macphisto0
My cousin used to say this about women:
"No matter how smart, sexy or tall she is, someone, somewhere is sick of her shit."
I suppose that you could turn the logic around to be appropriate for a man!
- not_lebowski0
which vd do you have?
- harlequino0
Give it a little more time. I am in a similar situation with a fantabulous woman. At first, it was similar to what you describe, but it grew and grew, and I feel very deeply for her, as she does for me.
Maybe you are growing up. That initial excitement usually wears off. But if you can start small and grow into something very deep and meaningful, then perhaps you got something there.
In the end, your gut will tell you. Good luck.
- fullerc0
Brooke,
I went through the same thing a bunch of years ago only with 2 girls.
I told my dad that I still have feeling for my first love even though I've been with my partner for years and asked if it would ever stop.
He told me "it never will" and looked at me in a way that I knew he still loved my mom even though they were divorced for like 10 years at the time.
Anyway I'm still with my second love although we've never married. My first love emails every once in awhile, she is married with 2 kids and still tells me she loves me.P.S. Sorry for pissing you off yesterday
- tkmeister0
i feel the same way now.
- taragee0
if its not there, its not there
maybe you need some time alone after that long term thing to get sorted out...
and what greedo said ;)
goodluck baba
- visualplane0
If you just got out of a long term relationship, then you should stay single for at least 6 months, not date for at least 2 years, and not leave the house for at least 6 years.
=)
- not_lebowski0
just do the first skank who crosses your path
- not_lebowski0
all chicks want some guy to sponge off of. this is a proven fact. it is annoying but true.
- scransom0
your biology is driven by the desire to have sexy kids. So the strong asshole man tends to stir your biology more than the thoughtful provider guy.
Lots of women marry the provider guy cause he'll help with the kids but cheat with the sexy guy because he'll spawn better kids.
Maybe the solution is for the nice guy to be more of a cocky bastard.