Relationship Advice
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- khilled0
ask GoogleRomance... it talks
- Jaline0
Makes sense, Melvetica.
- Melvetica0
I think you feel a different kind of love each time you fall in love. Though I don't think you should settle for just comfortable. That's how people end up living lives of quiet desperation.
I went through the mill with my last relationship, and it took a long time to get over. It was soooooo hot, even talking about typography would end up in a sweaty puddle on the desk. :) It was intensely insane and I wouldn't ever want to feel that out of control again.
Now I've found someone who is exciting, inspirational, witty and kind, and the feelings I have for him are softer and easier to handle. I much prefer this feeling to the out of control one.
Maybe that's growing up too?
- Jaline0
I didn't see this thread before...
I can't give you any advice b/c I've never been in a really serious relationship, but good luck!
- tkmeister0
good luck brooke.
btw, we never had a chance to really talk!!
i hope all will work out. life has a strange way of working out. it's all good.
- brooke0
Well ... life always has a way of working itself out. Amazing.
Right now I'm starting to focus on my happiness, and I need to address a few other issues as well. He's been so understanding, as expected. I'm glad we make good friends. No more boys for a while, I think.
- Boz0
Brooke, if you say that this guy is really sincere and good as he is, I don't think it's fair that you stay with him if you feel the way you feel. I believe that if you don't feel completed with a person and have that "magic" as you said, it's not fair to go on and stretch the whole thing just to see if that magic might happen. Usually the magic is not there if you don't feel it from the beginning and if it's not there it will eventually lead to a break up. At least that's how it is with me.
Especially if he's a good guy and really deserves to be with someone who can give him complete attention and sincerity. I think you already know what to do.
You know best in your heart if you really really click with him or not. Another thing is, down the line, you might meet the "magic" guy again and you will definitely start thinking again about how good you really get along with the current boyfriend. I don't know, I pretty much suck at relationships. but I'm just looking from the perspective of your current boyfriend. I wouldn't like to be with a person that has in one way or the other reservations towards our relationship.
I wish you resolve it and stay happy.
- prodigalslacker0
joining this a little late. coming from a similar situation sort of.
i'll just say that the girl i dated and had that, as you said 'magic' with - everything from then on gets compared to her. inadvertently, without intent, but instantly gets compared to her.
until i find someone that knocks me on my ass as much as she did, just by entering a room, i fear i'll never be as happy as i possibly could be. and it sucks.
good luck, miss brooke.
- Mimio0
I think you're right versa, and conversely people can talk themselves out of love too.
- not_lebowski0
if two people are just not compatible then that is a different issue.
emokid
(Mar 17 06, 13:45)dude, I know where youre going with this. anal isnt that cool of a thing and should break anyone apa...ah hell blah
- versa0
after many a relationship, i am a firm believer in love as a choice so to speak - every day waking up and saying hey, this person is great and i'm gonna give it another great go today to be my best with them, and give all that i can healthfully - predicting how things will be later, never seems to work or be right on the money - i suppose "the magic" is the same way - it will be what you make it to be i think - don't wait for an easy feeling - if you had it before, it could be just as dependent upon where you both were at the time period, and there is no guarentee it would have stayed so "magical" even with the prior guy -
- joyride0
joyride,
you are making me become a self-indulgent single guy.
tkmeister
(Mar 17 06, 13:31)LOL... but really you need to treat yourself to something nice everyonce and a while. Beside, I've had a ton of girls comment on it, its not even funny. So you won't be single for long if thats what your looking for.
And Brooke, just be honest with whatever you do.
- emokid0
magic is what you want it to be. it is directly proportional to the amount of effort one puts into it.
dont be mislead by movies, books, songs and people who say if its not there its not there.
if two people are just not compatible then that is a different issue.
- taragee0
id liek a sponge to mop you up with
- not_lebowski0
all chicks want some guy to sponge off of. this is a proven fact. it is annoying but true.
- taragee0
if its not there, its not there
maybe you need some time alone after that long term thing to get sorted out...
and what greedo said ;)
goodluck baba
- fullerc0
Brooke,
I went through the same thing a bunch of years ago only with 2 girls.
I told my dad that I still have feeling for my first love even though I've been with my partner for years and asked if it would ever stop.
He told me "it never will" and looked at me in a way that I knew he still loved my mom even though they were divorced for like 10 years at the time.
Anyway I'm still with my second love although we've never married. My first love emails every once in awhile, she is married with 2 kids and still tells me she loves me.P.S. Sorry for pissing you off yesterday
- tkmeister0
joyride,
you are making me become a self-indulgent single guy.
- c_valencia0
....get a cat.
- robotron3k0
sounds like he just needs a fashion makeover for you to get the hots for him again. that's all.