his n' hers design
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- honest
anyone here work alongside their lovely partners as head creative directors/boss? My wife wants me to start a company with her and I want to know the pitfalls and if any marriages have failed through this.
- paraselene0
i did a bit of work for a little while at a place in portland, oregon (whilst at uni) that was run by a couple.
i reckon it'd be a good idea. y'all could work at home naked and have sneaky shags when business was slow.
- skt0
There would be no escape. And affairs at work would be very difficult. And work could take over your lives. When would work end and home start? In short, i'm not seeing it as a great idea.
- Dancer0
Don't do it.
It will never work.
- skt0
On the other hand. What para said.
- paraselene0
i'll admit that mine was a rather utopian vision. it could all go to hell pretty easily.
- honest0
Well, if I told her I'm only gonna go into business for the sex, I don't think she'll be very pleased.
I can understand the notion of treating your loved one as a coworker will affect the relationship and no doubt I'll end up talking about business in bed and what not.
I'll think about it a little more.
- T-B-O-A0
I think it only works when it is a natural progression from both sides. If it's only because your girlfriend suggested it, could be ominous. Maybe wait for a little while.
- blaw0
it really comes down to the two of you. do you work well together? do your skills compliment each others?
if yes and i were in your shoes i'd be all over it.
- JamesEStone0
fuck that!
what would weekends and evenings turn into?
- JamesEStone0
Are you called Charles and Ray? :)
- honest0
Actually I was thinking along the lines of The Scarecrow and Mrs.King
- gruntt0
my mother and stepfather had their own design studio. they worked 10 feet apart from each other for 12 years. for them it worked.
i love my wife more than anything in this world but i could never do it.
- soda0
don't do it.
it's not good for you, her or any employee's.I shiver at the thought of the times I have worked for couples.
cunts.
the lot of them.
carry on..
- paraselene0
yup. judging from what it's like to live with a couple, i certainly wouldn't want to work for one.
i reiterate, slightly revise, and restate my initial post:
freelance.
naked.
- vwsung18t0
if you spend all day with each other what could you possibly say that's new to each other. like if you ask "how was your day?" the answer will be "you know how my day was! we freaking work together!"
- skt0
yup. judging from what it's like to live with a couple, i certainly wouldn't want to work for one.
paraselene
(Oct 5 05, 05:09)Haha. The Johns?
- MX_OnD0
steer clear.
A relationship of mine turned very very nasty indeed when we worked together.
- honest0
haha it's strange that when you marry, you only really want to be with your loved one for a certain amount of time during the day otherwise you're at risk for divorce!
Comments duly noted, shall not embark on husband and wife design team, it kinda sounds corny anyway.
- paraselene0
yup. judging from what it's like to live with a couple, i certainly wouldn't want to work for one.
paraselene
(Oct 5 05, 05:09)Haha. The Johns?
skt
(Oct 5 05, 05:12)i believe they're actually listed as Johnica™
- mbr0
Just depends on you. Some couples can be together 24-7 and it makes it stronger, others need time away.
A big thing, too, is the design taste/ability. I'd really hate to date an architect, as I would inevitably think about whether I liked/respected her design ability. Would be worse if I was in a marriage like that (well, never would happen).
But I do know of two friends that are married and doing well. Not 'officially' working together, but they've done projects together and I am sure that's how it'll end up.
Just depends on the relationship. No 'one rule for all'.
Personally, I'd love it. No worries about taking time off for vacation (you go/leave when you want), tons of time together, etc.
I hate the 9-5 anyway, though.