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- BonSeff0
have you spoke to her yet?
- jevad0
by email
regret it now cos now I kinda feel like she really is set in her decision.
she's like a different person now..it's fucking unreal
- rasko40
dont dive into pills jevad. I have had involvement with diazepam in the past and its slippery.
- nick0
they're sleeping pills i do believe, so its all gravy.
sleeping pills, wine, weed, ahhh.. la belle vie.
- BonSeff0
man, thats rough.
not being in your situation its hard to know what the situation is..
but it seems like you love her dearly, i dont think you should mess with emails. you should sack up and confront her face to face. i know i'm way out of line for saying that, but you seem like a strong willed guy. getting in her face, forcing the issue may clear up some questions and..
fuck i dunno..
i wish you both the best and i dont want to see you miserable
- Gorbie0
...what Seff said with a top-gun high five.
- jevad0
I will seriously have a breakdown if i see her face to face.
She is bringing the dog round for the weekend and suggested we get together tot alk but I couldn't stand hearing from her own lips the words that I dread to hear...that nothing has changed...that she wants a divorce...that no amount of time will change that...that would fucking kill me. i am a precious little shell of a man right now and the slightest crack will tear me apart....
- BonSeff0
gorbie,
YOUare
still
dangerous..
but
eh, you know the rest
:D
- rasko40
jevad. if you don't do this you will lie awake conjuring sentences and conversations, you will spend sleepless hours imagining the things you want to say to her, how you want to express your feelings. You will become a poet in your own mind, imagining beautifully romantic dialogue for the next time you meet. You know what will happen? The purity you feel now will become diluted by your everyday life, acceptance will set in and your resolution will become weak. Speak to her now, and not in a coffee shop. Speak now while your feelings run high. Dont let them slip, dont let your pride become bold.
- Gorbie0
even if i knew you better, i prolly still wouldn't know what to say. i just got hope, and you got friends.. so do your best and don't lay down if you want to stand up.
peace in your hood.
- BonSeff0
get mad brother.
right now she is controlling where everything is going..
she is controlling your correspondence, she took the dog..
fuck that. .
- jevad0
bonn...it was my anger that drover her away in teh first place.
getting mad will do nothing but show her I am not taking the reasons she left seriously
It is this feeling of not being in control and the helplessness that I hate
- Jaline0
I don't know you or anything but...maybe take a step in the direction of controlling your anger? Hmm...I dunno. You should definitely talk to her about how you feel because otherwise you'll regret it forever.
- SteveJobs0
if it's just anger, tell her you'll take some ang. mgmnt sessions or something. i've noticed you've got a bit of a short fuse, but we all do now and then. so just learn to deal with it. you're going to have to at some point in your life.
and for a little tough love: i've been down this road so many times, and i can remember vividly thinking to myself, this is the end of the world and i'll never find someone like her again and had friends console me and tell me the 'plenty of fish in the sea' bs. after having repeated this experience over and over, i know two things:
one, there aren't 'plenty of fish in the sea', but there are a few quality ones and you will meet someone out there that will make you forget about all your previous relationships and thankfull you got out of them.
two, that friends are THE single most important thing you have in your life. they will keep you strong and sane and listen to you bellyache about your loss and how you'll never find another like here blah, blah until inevitably you get tired of hearing yourself whine and the sad bastard music becomes pathetic and you realize it's time to get on with your life.going to hong kong or wherever it is you are going 'might' be therapeutic, but make sure you're not just running away from the problem - because you can't physically run away from it. the most important thing is to not be alone.
anyway, hang in there, you'll be fine - you have the support of everyone here on NT.
love
Steve Jobs
x0x0x0
- Rand0
there's some grim comfort in giving in to the fact that there's no way around it but through it
- vespa0
"Speak now while your feelings run high. Dont let them slip, dont let your pride become bold. "
some wise words there from rasko. talk to her. even if it feels awful, it's important nic.
- JazX0
nice one dude, if you are ever in Western PA, call me, blaw and mangosnot. we'll show you more than a good time. underbelly nasties and that
- tkmeister0
don't drop your pants in front of young kids. ;)
medication rocks!
- blaw0
definately what jaz said.