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- vespa
This week at work two colleagues' fathers have died.
One of the colleagues is a producer who i just worked very closely with - she is so awesome, the most friendly, helpful, funny, joyful person i've ever worked with. She worked her way up from being a receptionist to an assistant producer (only at the bbc!) and 3 weeks ago on the project we did she got her name in the credits on the telly for the first time ever. Her dad was watching in ireland and he sent her a text message saying "words can't describe how proud i am of my daughter right now..." and then a week later he had a stroke and last night he died.
god i'm really cut up over this. we're all getting older aren't we? i feel really bad right now for not spending more time with my parents. who here lives in a different country from their parents and how do you deal with it?
sorry to get all emotional.
- jevad0
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- mrdobolina0
damn, that's horrible. my pop died a couple of years ago. If I lost my Mom, I would be lost.
- ********0
ugh... god. not so good.
I visted my gran for the first time in this nursing home on Sunday.
Didn't help with my depressed feeling.
Might be out of sight, out of mind for my family, but it's not out of my mind.
:(
Getting old is not so good.
- taragee0
*calling mom and dad rigth now!
- ********0
call them and talk about the future.
i would..
- Peter0
>who here lives in a different country from their parents and how do you deal with it?
Folks in Sweden, I'm in Japan.
Can't see them that often (have only had one weeks vacation in over 3 years).
We email. Also gets visits once in a while. Reading your post though...Hmm, pops retired since last year. Better do some more bonding here instead of just sending these whisky bottles and pockys.
- jevad0
my folks are in hong kong - I live in the states : (
When I was in London I saw them a lot cos they would come over to see my gran's a couple times a year
Now it's harder....
- ********0
Cannae blame yersel'.
Ah sent ye a mail.
- ********0
aw this thread made me feel so sad. sorry to hear about your dad mrdobs :( and sorry to you vespa and to everyone else who has lost someone close. i don't know what else to say....
*hugs
- mrdobolina0
it's all good, he was a mean bastard.
- k0na_an0k0
i'm lucky enough to live a little less than an hour away from pretty much my whole family. we're all very close.
even the mundane birthday party turns into a 30+ person family get together. it's nice. i've very lucky.
sorry to hear you pain my friend. your folks are always a phone call away ya know.
- ********0
I tried hard to get as far away from family as possible. But it's only then that u realise what they mean to u. They occupy an enternal place in ur heart forged through childhood.
*sniff
- tim5250
i call my mom everyday. after the passing of one of my son's last year, i swore that i wouldn't miss an opportunity to hear my mom's voice or to tell her i love her. life is too short. i realize that even more now.
see my mom has cancer, high-blood pressure and parkinson's disease. her health has gotten worse by the year. not sure how much longer i will have her in my life. i wish i could visit her more often, but we live 5 hours apart, so it makes it a little bit difficult to visit more often.
life is too short people. call to say hello. tell your friends and family that you love them.
- toe_knee0
havent seen my folks in 2 years. I miss getting drunk with my old man, hes had an amazing life. and my chats with my mum she is so honest and law abiding.
- JamesEngage0
shite i feel depressed!
- vespa0
haha kuz i don't you could get much further away than i am from mine!
god guys sorry for this depressing thread. i just went and had a cry in the toilets after reading my own post. and then i got MX's mail and had to go back and cry some more, and the bloody toilets are across the other side of the building and i have to walk past 50 blokey programmers to get there, GODDAMN THIS DESIGNER BUILDING WITH ITS OPEN PLANNED SPACE AND GLASS WALLED MEETING ROOMS, they need to to have a "crying room" in the corner that no-one can see into for emotional fools like me.
- tim5250
its okay to cry vespa.
- slinky0
A good friend of mine just lost his mom a week ago.
I lost my mom in 2001 to lung cancer (would you all just stop smoking!)
the one thing i can say is that you WILL REGRET not spending time with the ones you love while you have them. My mom and I were very close, but I severely wish I had spent even more time with her.
Call yer Mom people! or Dad.
- ********0
I was with my dad when he died. Mom had been at the hsopital nonstop for days and she and my wife had just left to go home for a few hours. My brother went out in the hallway to make a phone call, and within 5 seconds Dad stopped breathing. I yelled something like "NO! You can't die now!" and a few seconds later he started breathing again. When my brother came back in the room I told him what had happened. He told Dad that we would take care of Mom, and that it was ok. Dad died right then and there. Along with the birth of our daughter it was the most profound experience of my life. Dad was a brilliant artist who had lived courageously with chronic leukemia for 15 years. After he died we sold our house and now share a large barn structure with 2 separate living spaces with my mother and our daughter. It's been a privelege.
- JamesEngage0
rand, that is a lovely thing to do, you're a good fella