younghood romanticism
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- ozhanlion
here is the deal, when my boss says something criticising me, like "you should learn optimizing faster, it took you one day to optimize it" although we are waiting for the client to accept it so it has nothing to do with optimization at that time, he just says it to relieve himself and he has no clue about what is optimization, I feel worried whatever. when I go back to home, I don't want to speak with anybody and really I don't want to go to work next day and the next day when he very likes my design for the new project and he praise it, I feel happy like a child. (of course I am not showing these feelings to him)
so how come ? I hate both of those feelings, neither of them is good imho. How can I prevent this, is it gonna pass in the future, if so when, when I am 55 ?
I will be 24 in Jan.
do u feel the same way ?
- Bio0
everyone feels like that though some to a lesser degree.
or maybe i should say that "everyone goes thru this". because you will eventually stop caring and your heart will grow cold. then you'll start thinking "hey, cannibalism doesnt sound so bad."
what you have to remember is that cannibalism IS bad. and just because the thought of your coworkers' roasted and well seasoned flesh is appealing, it doesn't make it right and certainly doesnt make it kosher.
so to sum up today's lesson:
your skin will thicken until you dont need the validation of others and the harsh words roll right off. especially from those you don't respect.
once you KNOW that what you are doing is right and good, then it no longer matters what others think and they will realize that you know what you are doing. and then the craving for sweet, sweet, fatty, roasted manflesh with fade.somewhere in there, i think i was trying to tell you something, but i lost track of it. . . damnit.
- mirola0
yeah, what bio said.
in many places that i've work i have found that bosses/directors/team-leaders will often say something to criticise your work in an attempt to validate their own position regardless of how much they like it.
basically, i think that many people feel they are not doing their job properly unless they criticise you for at least one thing
- Bio0
yea. and all joking aside (im hopped up on flu medicine and given to rambling even when sober), once you have enough experience to know that you are right on schedule and that you are doing everything correctly, then it is pretty easy to deflate someone's words.
when you have that confidence, it becomes easy to expose the ignorance of your verbal attacker.
sort of like vocal jujitsu or some shit.bad thing is, it can take a while to build up that confidence and some folks never get it. just dont let people (not even your boss) run over you or you will never earn respect.
NOW QUICK! listen to some cheesy 80s music like "final countdown" or something off the Rocky IV xoundtrack! YEA! you're a MADMAN! your CUHRAAAAYZy! so go get em tiger.
- swollenelbow0
wow, this topic hit me on the head...good call you guys.
everyone does go through this. i'm going through it. the way i see it now...is: do i really give a shit what you (my boss) did 5 years ago? this is me now. don't give me guilt trips about how i didn't stay and work over time. don't tell me how you once had to create logos on a machine with 128 mb of memory and a wheel mouse. don't say anything that will make you feel like you are a BOSS.
i think i'm getting over it. this is me. you know what i can do. take it or leave it. i don't have anything to prove to you.
heh. sorry. i understand what is going on now. godspeed.
- shutdown0
If your boss doesn't have a clue it's always good to say some kind of technobabble and see if he uses it next time you meet him.
If he does then it proves he knows nothing thus making you feel better instantly
