when to step in?
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- KublaKhan
ok, so i think my friend has a drug problem. not that sissy shite like weed, but hard shite white powder and a few other things.
im concerned about this person's well being and want to ask them whats up. but i feel like i may be stepping in over my head and cause my friend to not like me a runaway fro medling into their business.
its really hurting this person too. from appearance to financial responsibilities to friendships to job...its just messin them up bad.
should i just knuckle up and say something? should i ask in a ruond about way "yo, um, are you, um, ok?"
*sigh*
- globeriding0
tough one. however, just think how shit you'll feel if something serious did happen and you didnt say anything... but maybe just be *sure* of your facts first?
- mrdobolina0
kublakhan,
just tell them you arent trying to fuckup their good time, but have noticed problems stemming from their activities. Partying isnt what its all about, that kinda thing.
if its early, thats all it takes.
take it from this 31 year old bastid, I had maaad roommates that got messed up on coke, acid, ecstacy everything.
Its the damn club scene that does this to people ;)
- unfittoprint0
Talk to him, and if that doesn't work, kick his ass.
believe me, you don't want to see a friend fade away.
- indivision0
You should step in immediately.
- ********0
do 'they' realise its getting to them?
if not read about it a bit.
theres stuff you should know to make a person aware he/she/they got a problem with it.Signs as: spending more money than actually planned on one evening. Getting wind up in situations you normally are disgusted with.
Friends who are your friends cause you got some C. in your pocket. Type of girlfriends who you wind up with that you wouldnt hang out with.think first than act.
realise theres a possibility you have to step away from them. make clear for yourself when you want to do that.take care
- ********0
... dont forget youre not the salvation army but a friend who cares.
- KublaKhan0
bxcar, i undertstand your point. as i do most of you.
the fine line is when friendship turns into scouting. i don't want this person to feel like i am just getting into their business.
but it is evident that they are on something. this person makes good money on a good job and is ALWAYS broke. you may say thats no big deal, but when the person has absoutely nothing...and i mean NOTHING to show for his lifestyle, you start realizing that there is something else going on.
plus this person randomly mentions that someone else they know has a drug problem, but i feel like what this person is doing is building the story of themselves on someone elses life....makes sense? kinda throwing it off on the other person and giving reasons/excuses and such.
in any event, i think i will confront them sometime soon. just as a friend that is concerned. if i wasn't their friend i wouldn't feel the necessity to step in. but...
- ********0
KublaKhan, i hear what youre saying.
i'll keep it short on this one as i think you know what to do.
i m sure your friend DOES have a problem.
if you are his friend/mate it is your business as my good friends are like family to me.
friends are part of my everyday lifelots of courage to you.