my last girl post ever - i promise
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- kote
ok - been seeing this girl 14 months. Everything was so good - she wouldnts stop asking me when I was going to marry her....talking about being with me forever, etc. - I once tried to break up with her because i was falling so hard - told her I was scared. She assured me I was the only one she would ever be with and ever wanted to be with, for the rest of her life.
So then I get busy with work - long hours from home, and she would come over. I couldnt spend the time I had before - had to work, had to make something better for both of us. So I buy a ring - valentines day i was going to give it to her. she broke up with me the monday before. We got back togehter for a couple weeks and then I messed up again. i took her to a confrense and didnt involve her at all. She was pissed. whats worse is she said she wanted to leave and so I walked her tot he train station, gave her a kiss, and went bacl to the party,
I know I messed up. Two weeks later she broke it off.
I apologized for it - went to her house the next day to try top work it out. Sje wasnt having it. she also said she had been dating someone.
I ahve tried to work it out, express my love for her, work trhought he issues...she seemed willing to try to work it out. I saw her a week ago today - it was wonderful. I hadnt seen/hear from her in a week because she went on vacation to see her friend in NC. So anyway, i take her to dinner and we talk. I listen most of the time, just wanting to be there for her. Then we came back here and hung out. I said I was glad she came over, and she said the same. That she was enjoying spending time with me. She grabbed me at the end of the night at her car with a big girlfriend kinda hug. It felt good. She even had a look like 'Why arent you kissing me"
Well, I called on tuesday, and said I had fun. That I was happy to see her and was looking forward to seeing her again. She never called back. I wait a day and acall her back, inviting her to go out with me on friday (VIP tickets). She doesnt call back. So I call her back - a little angry - twice on thursday night, leaving long messages about how I am hurt and she shouldnt play wit me, and how she is the love of my life. Once more on friday during the day to tell her I meant what i said the night before and that I simply miss her.
and still havent heard back. So - throw it to the wind? i trully love this girl, but if she cant call me back, wtf? What is happening that I am not seeing or dont want to see? And how do I win her back for good? Or can I?
- unknown0
ok im sorry to say this, but someone had to. ive been watching u post about this shitty girl for a while now.
if you care so much for her and show her that you care so much for her, yet she still doesnt care, THEN SHE'S NOT WORTH IT!!!
god! go find someone else!!
sorry. i know i should ignore posts which i dont approve of, but this is getting a bit too annoying.
sorry.
- Peter0
If it eazes your mind: she doesn't answer your calls cause I kidnapped her
- unformatted0
dude seriously, don't you have offline friends or family to talk to? posting on nt will probably get you no where.
i really don't blame some of these guys smart ass remarks, because everyone is tired of seeing this posted.
talk to REAL people, not people you don't even know.
sorry man.
- Peter0
Taken from "top 3 threads you don't want to see":
"1. I lost my lover threads
2. I lost my lover threads
3. I lost my lover threads"
- unknown0
we still love you. just not your lovesick posts.
- Peter0
Don't want to be all evil and stuff...maybe a little...but Unformatted has got a good point
- unknown0
yeah; we gotta cut you loose, kote.
Go to following threads:
"Drinks" to get pissed"Crush" to see that there is other chicks.
In any case, let go of these threads
- unknown0
haha drphil!!
- Skydiver0
Kote - I have been reading threads about this saga since you r first post. My view on the subject is this...
Try to take things as they come and dont push for things. You can't FORCE love or fun and happiness, it just comes naturally. It seems to me that you both need space and time. This may mean that you drift away from each other, but, if that is so then, that is the way it is meant to be. I am a firm believer in fate, it seems to me that your gal has found other things/people and the only reason she comes back is because you are making it so hard for her. Just let her go and if she wants to come back she will, under her own steam. Don't fone, or messege her and get on with your own life. In a few months you will look back at this time and think "what was I doing, I'm soooo happy now".
Sometimes in love you cant see past the end of your nose, and you need some help. So here it is! and I hope it helps!Believe me, ive been there and time heals.
Capeesh!
- Skydiver0
Guys - sometimes it's good to get advice from total strangers as it remains unclouded and succinct. Give the guy a break!
Kote - Make this your last lovesick post eh!
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capeesh!
- unknown0
Hey Lucy in the Sky(diver)
You´re right, but seems like people here just have had it. I don´t think you have seen all the posts on this, you woulden´t be so nice if you had.
- sexypixel0
kote your scaring me with your obssesiveness and I dont even know you. chances are this girl will have a restraining order on you in no time if you keep it up. you treated her like shit twice, and she put up with it, you did it a third time and she told you to f off, now you want her back, seems to me like you only want what you cant have. leave the girl alone, sort your head out, talk to someone 'real' get a hooker and come back when your saine, sorry, but your far from the kote i remembewr
- unknown0
Kote I have come to the conclusion that you need serious therapy.
You seem to have no shame about coming here asking these dumb agony aunt questions, you have 'DOORMAT' written all over you, emotionally at least. I am offering you no advice on this but one thing I will say is that if you are becoming a cop like you said you were, then I think you should reconsider... someone with the inability to deal with their own minor emotional problems is in no way qualified to walk the streets with firearms and expected to deal with situations involving distressed and disturbed people.
Thats harsh I know but you really ask for it, now get a grip.
- krist0ff0
hey kote. i haven't read the other posts so maybe am a bit more sympathetic than some of the others...
sometimes it happens, you think you are perfectly suited and completely in love with each other.
but things change and you split up. it's happened to all of us. of course it hurts, but you get over it.
you will be happy with someone else and will realise something important was missing, but maybe were too naive to see it before.
part of life experience and it's all good.
don't wanna sound patronising, but maybe take this as a lesson in life. so go out and enjoy yourself with your friends.
by the way if she said she is seeing someone else that is a pretty good indicator she has moved on, so i suggest you do as quickly as possible.
enough said.
- unknown0
oh fuck off...
this isnt ricki fuckin lake
- petzi0
kote, rasko is right. maybe you need a lil' help. don't go under brother! i've been there
- thecrab0
don't be a wussy, Kote
DO something
- Sapphire0
GET OVER IT!