Relationship Advice
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ok. this is my comment. as you probably know, i'm known around here for disclosing my girl problems, sometimes its just easier to talk to people this way.
speaking from personal experience, no one will be able to make a decision about what you want to do aside from yourself. if you truly love her, if you can't imagine the rest of your life without her, then you need to tell her. girls are emotional. they feel while we are too busy thinking. they need constant attention. even if you are working and she's over your house, you need to give her special attention every so often. tell her, i'm really busy but, i can spare five minutes to kiss you...or 2 minutes to hold you. if you do that once on the hour, they'll be fine. they'll just chill out watching tv or something. if there is anyway that she can help you, ask her to. ask for her input if you're a designer. girls love to feel involved. ignoring them in the worst thing that you can do. neglect only leads to them seeking attention elsewhere. think about it, all she needs to do is walk outside and guaranteed some dude will spit a line at her. you need to make her feel wanted and important. put yourself in their place, how would you feel if you were over her house all of the time and all she did was work? girls need to feel loved. tell her how happy you are to see her and that you can't wait to finish working so you can chill with her.
BUT, as it appears, many feelings have been hurt already. this other guy that she is seeing is only because she needs to get over you. if she truly loves you, she's not sleeping with him. she is just chillin with him. if shes using him to get over you shes secretly hoping that you guys will get back together.
relationships are so hard. but they're also hard to come by. if you find the person that you want to be with forever, you'll do anything to keep them. if you guys are truly in love, you both are missing each other.stop to think about your life without her. i know its mushy, but stop to think about never kissing her again, or holding her, or the way she always makes you feel better when you're down or distressed, the smell of her hair. if you can imagine going on without her, then dont call her. but, if you need her, call or see her if possible and tell her.
dont let pride get in the way of your future.
hope this helps a little.