Relationship Advice
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kote i'm going to say some things that will get you to think about your relationship a little bit, and you may not like them. but i'm honestly trying to help here.
i just don't buy this "i'm dating other guys because you don't pay me enough attention" argument. i'm not saying that she didn't say that - i'm saying that there's something else going on there.
do you honestly think that you haven't paid her enough attention, or that she is just very needy?
you guys have only been going out for a year - why is she so amped to get married?
did you buy the ring because you felt bad because you haven't been paying her enough attention over the last 3 months, or were you genuinely ready to get married? you're still in college. are you sure you're ready for this - mentally? financially? marriage is a huge step and not something you do to fix a relationship.
and here's anothing thing - if you say you love her, and she loves you and you believe in this and your feelings are strong - wouldn't there be some time before she jumped back into the dating scene?
if you mean so much to her, wouldn't she want to communicate with you about her feelings and the fact that you're not paying her enough attention - instead of just going out with some random guy? again - this is why i don't buy her argument.
there's something else, kote. you have to figure out what it is. and trust me, communication is fucking KEY.
i wish you luck..