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    I'm mid-30's, single, no kids. In a good place now with a good job and situation and skills, but still single.

    My 20's were kinda rough, mostly because of insecurities and therefore failures.

    I grew up relatively privileged, so I don't have a lot of excuses.

    Lately I've been thinking of all the failed relationships or job interviews, things I did that were dumb or didn't go for, or shitty jobs I had in my 20's just to get by, when I believed I deserved better, but couldn't figure it out.

    Namely thinking of one girl in college that I was in love with that I had a chance with but didn't date or make a move on because of insecurities. And 1 job opportunity at 25 that I got fired from because of ego and me clashing with a coworker. There's a few more female crushes I should have pursued that were complicated at the time and I didn't know how to handle and I still think about.

    Ultimately, this made me who I am and I'm ok now and I don't know what tomorrow will bring.

    But thinking back, I feel like I could have had it so easy and everything was right there for me.

    • Mid thirties is a perfect time to chart a course for the rest of your life. If you want kids and a partner, you are in a great place to make that happen.monNom
    • aww mate. I know that feeling. I wasn't so privileged but had a great woman who wanted kids when i was 30. I bailed and now live with that regret.Ianbolton
    • But yeah, today is today and hopefully you can find value in waking up tomorrow and trying again. Stick in there buddy, and Merry singledom Christmas.Ianbolton
    • There are scads of ladies around their thirties that want nothing more than a man in a stable position that can be a good father to their children.monNom
    • *future childrenmonNom
    • It's a Wonderful Life.zardoz

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