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- shapesalad14
I think I've mentioned my failing marriage and such on here before. That I was getting divorced. Well I somehow tried to give it another go. And there had been some genuine happy times.
But due to losing my job (my heart wasn't in it and they could see that, I was only doing it as I needed it to secure wife's visa) and no longer meeting the requirements for her Visa, and for her not taking responsibility to find any work to secure her visa... turning her nose at seemingly ok minimal wage jobs, It looks like it's coming to an end.
To top it all off she's turned my family in to the reason for all the bad stuff in her life, throwing hate in their direction.
Overall she's a victim. Horrible things have happened to her that are not her fault. But she keeps taking the easy route out, avoiding owning it, avoiding facing it, she feels ashamed and embarrassed, angry and hurt, scared and insecure. But by not taking responsibility, instead it comes back to me.
And so it seems it will finish here.
- Wish me luck, it's going to be a difficult few months, but I can already see a better future ahead.shapesalad
- Rip that bandaid off.
Good luck to you both.
Give her my number.palimpsest - Ooof... Best of luck man.pango
- good luck shapeFax_Benson
- Where she from?palimpsest
- Hope better days for you shape, keep it high and good luck!OBBTKN
- This could explain so much.palimpsest
- sad to hear. good luckmilfhunter
- Japan. World capital of mental health problems.shapesalad
- She and her family are very conservative, ultra sensitive to any remark or comment that in the west would be consider 'air', considered small talk or such.shapesalad
- going through the same myself after 14 years and nearly escaping twice <facepalm> grim few years but things finally looking upkingsteven
- So it's seems several years ago, I said to her mother 'it must be noisy working at a kinder-garden' when making small talk about her job, after she said she wasshapesalad
- tired. I've been told this weekend that she took great offence to it.shapesalad
- I only kept the ship floating in the pandemic while my wife earned 0 and barely applied to any jobs. But never mind, take offence at something I said years agoshapesalad
- 7/12 Never Forgetpalimpsest
- heh, dude i have had to be the most zen motherfucker the last while to keep things amicable. my ex has started to get her shit together now and i'm happy forkingsteven
- her, but after years of relying on me holding her shit together it's hard not to resent getting used like that. just gotta cut your losses and move on xkingsteven
- Good riddance!. Surround yourself around positive people and good energy. She sounded lazy, not working and spending your money like crazy. Pure selfishness.Leigh
- Sounds like an immigrant for sure.palimpsest
- ^ What's worst is I can't tell if your joking or not.pango
- Thanks guys. Sad point is... I do love her. But I have to let her go, I'm just enabling her to avoid facing some truths and concurring her fears.shapesalad
- Agree with good riddance. Shes not dead and as an opportunist she will survive in her own. Fuck off to that parasite. Focus on yourself.cannonball1978
- Good luck Shape, it looks like you know the best way forward now. It’ll be a massive weight off your shoulders.Chimp
- I think all the time I've been on QBN you've moaned about your marriage. Get her binned, reap the financial rewards and post about it on here like a legend.PhanLo
- I divorced in 2012. It was/is hard. Got two great kids out of it all though. I'm remarried now and couldn't be more thankful/happy.misterhow
- Good luck, hope you find somebody with whom you move each other’s lives forward.********
- Sounds like she really underestimated / was oversold the ease of being an immigrant. And doesn't have that "whatever it takes" attitude (which I for sure don't)Projectile