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FFS.
A woman I dated twice, for a couple of months each time in 2012 — and has since moved to Berlin, got a career, etc — visited my LinkedIn profile last night, then sent me a WhatsApp text this evening saying, 'Sorry for LinkedIn stalking, I was curious if you are all right'. We do a bit of small talk, and she tells me she thinks about me sometimes (after I thanked her for thinking of me).
Worth noting, she dumped me both times for being emotionally unavailable, and I remember not being at all happy about the outcome either time.
I really don't get why she does this, and she does something like this something like once a year for the last four or five years. Argh.
And yes, I still have a thing for her, which is why it's making me upset.
Ladies of QBN, any insights you could give me would be lovely.
Pfffffff.
- I'll just go ahead and downvote myself for being like a nauseating adolescent.Continuity
- Never give anyone a second chance as a romantic or even sexual partner after it's over. You don't owe them anything, and you deserve better.sr_rosa
- It's always just a speedrun to the same end.sr_rosa
- I just want to know why she does this, vanishes, then comes back to do the same thing in a year. I don't get the motivation or the reason why.Continuity
- After the second she did this, I learned not to get my hopes up to much, so there's that much gained.Continuity
- *second timeContinuity
- Most probable cause, is she just like having you as a backup in case nothing better comes up. Acid test would be letting her know that...sr_rosa
- Well. Wonderful.
</sarcasm>
I've never behaved like that with any of my exes.Continuity - ...you are in a committed relationship. If she contacts you casually again it's proof she doesn't care about you or wants to pursue anything, she is just checkingsr_rosa
- She is a covert narcissist keeping you handy for emotional fuel or for favors. Let me guess, she's a bit shy but a bit of a helpless victim.robotron3k
- Interestingly, one of the times she did reach out a couple of years ago, I was in a committed relationship and told her. And here we are now.Continuity
- @robo: nah, she never played the victim at all. She's ambitious, knows what she wants, and never played that card with me.Continuity
- Sometimes the most hurtful manipulative shit doesn't come from malice but from well intended candid actions.sr_rosa
- Well, whatever. I'll just eat some homemade shoyu ramen, watch CinemaSins, and try to get her out of my head. AGAIN.Continuity
- @sr_rosa, I totally agree. And she probably had the best intentions. And it still hurts. Fucking hell.Continuity
- "Pretty girls make graves" - Sid Viciousrobotron3k
- At least she has 'continuity' ;)microkorg
- sadTrombone.mp3Continuity
- *robo is a lady
BaDumTss.mp3******** - She could just have been lonely and the thought of you made her happy, so she reached out.Gnash
- She clearly has fond memories of you. be thankful just for that. Regardless of her intentionsGnash
- Clearly she likes your attention. Don't settle for crumbs.sea_sea
- ^Continuity
- What Dan Bacon videos on youtube and try out some techniques/mindsets.shapesalad
- She's probably just broken up with someone...and needs to have her ego stroked by you saying you still have feelings. Fuck that.BusterBoy
- Guess I failed that test miserably, then.Continuity