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- autoflavour0
So we just moved back from Berlin to Sydney so my mother wasnt all by herself and she could spend time with her grandchildren.
its definitely swings and roundabouts..
one of the hardest parts is dealing with her expectations of her self in relation to dealing with the kids.. she is super keen to help out, and look after them, but her idea of babysitting is putting them infront of the tv while she may or may not be awake..
now given they are 2 and 6 years old, this is not good.
but she is 77 years old and not very mobile, so even if she is awake the likelyhood of her reacting quick enough to stop a problem is probably slim.
that said, i think us being here has definitely changed her entire world.. hopefully for the better.
its not easy though..
fortunately she is pretty together mentally..
there isnt a day that goes by at the moment when i think about the world we had in Berlin and i instantly feel this deep sense of loss inside me, almost like grief.. passé to say i know, but its a physical reaction.. even typing this now i am feeling it.
making choices sometimes requires you to lose .. there is no right or wrong answers in any of it.. its just a bunch of paths, all which have their own shit attached.
i only hope that us coming back is making her happy and that we havent just done all this nothing..
im pretty sure having the kids around offsets any other drama she might have with us.. not that she would ever tell us, the harmony addict that she is..
- had the same probs. my wifes parents are a good 0-15 years younger than my parents and look after flynn 2 days a week. my mum n dad couldnt do that.trooperbill
- Once you get into the swing of aussie life you might enjoy it more. Lots more heat and sunshine and isn't everyone over there real health freaks?microkorg
- You've got some nice toys to play with in ur studio, but make sure you get out in the sun to really appreciate Oz.microkorg