old parents
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I've always been like everyone else thinking that family is always going to be there. But a couple of years ago after not seeing my parents for about 5 years since we live in different countries, I visited them and couldn't help it but feel a little sad when they were waiting for me at the airport. They had aged. And that moment right there i felt like reality hit me.
Since then we talk on the phone often, I actually spent over a year with them helping my dad with his business while at the same I kept freelancing. We got to do a lot of things we didn't do when I was a kid. Simple things like taking my dad, his wife and step sis to a beautiful mountain to do some hiking. During this time every birthday or holiday was an excuse to make it a big event at home. We have more elaborate xmas dinners, we dress up like santas and scare my little newphew as we give him his presents and all those little details are some thing my dad seems to really appreciate. it's like he is really living life and tons of memories are getting produced by this.
Luckily here, both of them have never smoked or even drank a drop of alcohol. They do take of themselves now and they are in their early 60's. Although an uncle with the same healthy lifestyle passed away a month ago.
I have actually thought moving back. Get a job. Know some people there... and for the first time ever everyone lives in the same city except for me.
What I just see is that as long as they get to see you and get to make more memories and see you as a grown productive adult they are happy. It's imperative to increase the amount of contact with them. Hang out, always be in touch and talk as much as possible and get them to spent as much time s possible with the little ones. Both of my parents can't get enough of my nephew. It truly gives them energy, makes them feel like parents all over again.