old parents
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- Beeswax1
Dad 80, mom 74. Last year I quit big city life(along with my wife) and moved to my parents town to be closer to them. It's a super cute coastal town on Aegean so it wasn't that of a problem to move.
But after I moved I realized how much they need me here. My dad still drives but his senses and reflexes are getting pretty slow so I drive them around when they need to go longer distances, I see them every other day, go shopping, carry stuff, build their furniture etc. Luckily their neighbours are good people(old as well) so I feel comfortable leaving them at their home because they can keep an eye on each other.bklyndroobeki has asked "How do you manage or deal when a parent tells you they've been diagnosed w/ something serious?"
My dad has been diagnosed with lymphoma(cancer) 4 years ago, I did not feel so sad, because, i'm lucky to have them both still. There are people around me who lost their parents at much younger ages so how can I complain?
Eventually the loss will happen, but I think they don't mind it as much as we do, as long as they spend time with their kids and see them happy and healthy.
I still make my mom cook for us because she really enjoys that, I ask for some money from my dad when my cards fill up, because he feels he's still useful and that makes him happy.So don't look at it as a burden or something to feel sad about. Helping them when they are needy is psychologically very satisfactory and it is actually meaningful.
- That's great you were able to move back. I've been wanting to live closer to my folks for a decade now, but business wise it's near impossible.formed