Marriage.
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- autoflavour0
i think people build the actual ceremony way out of proportion .. and as result it puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on the actual marriage itself, both financially and emotionally.
my wife and I eloped one month after I proposed.. no one knew except a few friends in Berlin at the time, and we told all our family and extended network after the fact.
it wasnt without its own stress and bullshit, but the whole circus and bullshit that goes with the "big day" was thrown out the window and our lives were pretty much the same one day to the next..
i have a few friends who have told me after spending so much time, money and tears getting to the point of actually having the wedding, that after all the dust settles, they found that their relationship was changed by the process.. mostly for the worse..
especially once you consider the massive financial burden it puts on a young couple, which lingers long after the honeymoon.weddings are nice, and part of me regrets not having one.. but at the same time given our backgrounds being from different countries, it didnt matter where we got married, one or other family would have missed out.. in the end, everyone missing out equally was the fairest solution.
but yep, the thing i love the most about the way we did it was the continuity from one day to the next.. it didnt feel like we ran a marathon or climbed a mountain.. we just went on a small holiday to denmark, signed some paper in front of some strangers, and went back to our normal lives that we had been living the past 7 years.
marriage is awesome.. weddings are overrated.