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- Horp0
I got into a relationship in my second year at art school. It lasted for eight years after that, living together as man and wife. Then it went the same way you are describing.
You don't have to kill it ruthlessly and walk away. You don't have to suffer for the rest of your life either.
You need to set an evening aside where you both sit down and talk it through, and you'll either both agree its over, or you'll both agree its worth saving. If the former, then its okay... you both feel the same way, and it can end amicably and swiftly without pain.
If the latter, then you'll have opened up a joint forum where you can discuss the problems honestly and identify the things you both need to do to fix stuff. Share more responsibilities, spice up the sex life, and share more social time. I reckon you also need to find some friends as well though... helps to keep stuff in perspective.
In my case, I instigated the talk, we both agreed it wasn't going anywhere, and we parted amicably. We actually continued living together for about three months as friends because we were still so close, just no longer in love.Its not as bad as you think it is.
- < well said.Jaline
- Thanks. Will you marry me now?Horp
- oh...uhh....err...um... think I need some space.Jaline
- Yeah, true. Me too.
* weeps.Horp - This advice, sounds like the work of a published writer.canuck
- The girls will be throwing themselves at you starting tomorrow.Jaline
- - we have to wait 'till tomorrow????alicetheblue
- Yeah, there's a rule.Jaline