Moving in with GF
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- locustsloth0
Sounds like you are each looking for different levels of commitment. She wants to be an ever-present part of your life. You want her to be an accessory to your life, no matter how much you love her.
There's not much middle ground here. Maybe you can put her off for a while. Maybe say the 18 month or 24 month mark of your relationship. Give her a date when she can move in. Treat it as if it is set i stone and act (falsely, if need be) like you are looking forward to it. This will show her that you are commited to the relationship, just not hot on the idea of co-habitation.
If this fails, there may need to be some other sort of sacrifice to prove your level of commitment. Because that's probably what she is looking for as much as a financial benefit.
But what ultimately needs to be answered is if she is such a hazard to your mental health if she moves in, how much do you actually love her? Is it actual love, or is she the proverbial bird in the hand?