Marriage.
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OK, just checked your blog and I gotta say something.
YOU MUST! Stop the self-blame and putting yourself down. This is part of the problem. You don't love yourself enough. I know right now, she has not helped on that department and has made you feel like crap, but you cannot continue to put yourself down and let her walk all over you. You need to get back n your feet and be the man you know you are and the man every woman needs. You want to fix things? Start by working on YOU.
Yes, everyone talks about feelings and love, etc. but women need a man they can look up to and respect. If they don't respect you, you have lost half of the battle man. It's not about looks or money, it's mostly about your confidence, self-control. how you treat yourself, how others see you, how you walk into a room.... trust me on this... any woman (altho they might not want to admit it) seeks for these qualities on a man. If things don't work out and it's too late, think about this for future relationships.
I've been married for 10 years already and I can honestly say I am happy. I'm not bragging, but I want to show you and other friends here, that marriage is what YOU make of it. Yes, we've had our problems, but we've realized they are nothing compared to what we have and what made us take the plunge. We respect and trust each other and this has truly helped us over the years. We work as a team, altho sometimes she does more :s, but we both put in the same amount of effort, without forgetting who we are and working on our own pros and cons.
Don't judge things based on statistics. They're just numbers. Concentrate on YOUR situation and make the best of it. If you think there's a chance, go for it and fight for what you think is right. BUT, if you see she's completely done, don't extend your agony. This will only make her hate you in the longrun. If it's too late (which I am sorry to say, but in this case seems like it is) work on yourself. Go for a ride, or a walk and start a new chapter. Forget about those negative and pity thoughts, you are a fuckin' man and need to grab your balls and walk tall. (not literally)
Get a job, ask for help from family and friends with the kids, start saving some money and thinking of what's coming. You have kids, so start planning what you're going to fight for. Visit attorneys and get an idea of where you stand. You MUST get a job if you are expecting to fight for custody or time with your kids. And when the moment comes, be a strong and confident man. The judge will perceive your pride, and she will see you for who you really are.
OK, I don't bore you guys anymore...