Staying in touch with ex's
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- Boz0
Nah, nothing harsh about it.
and when 5 years from now, when you are happy with someone else, and that ex contacts you to see "how you are" you tell them to "fuck off" and you respect the fact that you are now with someone else and that there's 0 reasons why you would meet or talk to your ex.
If you are with someone else later as well, it's all about respect too.. how would you feel if your girlfriend went to coffee and hung out with someone they fucked before? It certainly wouldn't make you feel comfortable no matter how much you might trust them.
You don't see ex for several reasons and one should be the respect you have for your new partner.
Again, the reason people break up is because one of the people in a relationship wants to move on.. One wants to latch onto the relationship in 99% of the cases. So no, there's no reason to stay "friends" or whatever with your ex..
There is no reason whatsoever to stay in contact with that person, EXACTLY because of the things you describe. You still care for that person. You shared certain level of intimacy that will always create a bond between 2 people, a certain level of comfort. And it's a dangerous road to take because, no matter how much you feel you can be friends with someone, you will always feel something when yo u see them.
So knowing that, as an adult who has been in relationships, you will sever the ties with that person so you can continue living YOUR OWN life. If the person dumped you, all the more reason for it.
So to conclude:
1. You don't keep in touch with your ex because you have respect for your new partners.
2. You don't keep in touch with your ex because you should be moving on with your life, not dwelling in the "there's a possibility for us to get back together" or "I'm so worried i"ll end up alone and not get any, I better keep the communication going" land.
3. You don't keep in touch your ex because in very few cases any reconnection will not lead to "happily ever after" but another miserable episode for the one who got dumped in that relationship.Cheers.
- and btw, if you are the one who dumped that other person, you will actually be doing them a favor.Boz
- ppl can actually coexist without either fucking them, or not fucking them. It's not always about that.dopepope
- not really.. at the very basic level that's what it comes down to.Boz
- Love the recap_salisae_
- and you must believe that a guy and a girl can be friends :)Boz
- the last recap item should be "in most cases any reconnection.."Boz