Women!!!
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- Jaline0
"I don't understand women" is lame.
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http://www.associatedcontent.com…1) "I'm leaving, but feel free to stay." Most often used by the girlfriend who has grown weary of the party and is ready to head home. She doesn't want to appear controlling and therefore phrases her words carefully, but gentlemen, watch out. Even though she says you can stay, she would prefer you to go home with her. If you don't, you're basically saying you'd rather stay at the party than be with her.
2) "I'm not mad. Everything is fine." No, everything is not fine. Something is wrong, and if you accept her answer and continue on your way, she will be very upset. She wants you to ask her several times, and show you really care. She doesn't want to appear to nag, however, if you ask several times, she won't feel as bad for letting you in on why she's upset.
3) "Does this make me look fat?" All boyfriends have experienced this question at one time or another. Don't ever tell her she looks fat. There are other diplomatic ways to handle the situation. Divert her attention away from the current item of clothing, and say something along the lines of, "You always look great, but I don't think this outfit does you justice. I think that dress on the mannequin would really do it for you." This way, you're not focusing on the negative part, and instead you are making it a positive situation.
4) "Is she pretty?" Important rule: your girlfriend is and always will be the most beautiful woman on earth. Know it and live it. If and when she asks you this, always say, "She's nothing compared to you," or "I didn't even notice her, because my eyes were on you." If you do insist on commenting on another woman, don't ever go into immense detail, by saying things such as, "She has gorgeous eyes" or "She has an amazing smile." Comments like that will make many women uncomfortable, and it's about the equivalent of your girlfriend saying something like, "Did you see that guy's six-pack? Ripped!"
5) "What do you like about me?" She's probably experiencing a low moment, and needs some cheering up. Be sure to remind her of her physical and mental traits, that way she will really feel like you care about her. This is an important question she asks, so don't blow it off or laugh at her or say you "don't know". Unacceptable.
6) "I don't mind paying." She still wants you to pay. She's trying to look generous so you don't think she's just trying to get free dinner from you, but secretly, she wants you to want to pay. So, thank her for you generosity but insist that you pay and leave it at that.
7) "I don't usually do this on the first date." She's embarrassed, and doesn't want to come off as easy or promiscuous. Just nod your head and simply say, "I never even thought that." It will make her feel more at ease.
8) Very important - call when you say you will, otherwise, don't make a promise you don't intend on keeping. If you say you're going to call her tomorrow afternoon, she's going to expect a call between the hours of 1pm and 5:30. If she doesn't hear from you, she's going to think you don't really care. I know you think that by telling her you'll call will make her feel better, but what good is it if you get her hopes up and then let her down? She'll be feeling even worse!
9) "I should go". She doesn't really, but she doesn't want to overstay her welcome. That's also your verbal cue to say, "Oh, please stay a little longer," or "I understand, and I wish you could stay longer. Perhaps next time." That will make her feel more desired and less awkward about staying/leaving.
10) "You don't have to get me a gift." Um, yes you do. She wants you to. She will be very, very upset if you don't. She may not ever show it, but that's how she feels.
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Of course, not all women are like this. I agree with doesnotexist (his username doesn't help my case, but anyway...), in that you have to find the right person.
- DISCLAIMER: I don't agree with all of this. Especially the paying one.Jaline
- Some of it makes sense for a lot of women though, I understand.Jaline
- This paints a "high-maintenance" portrait of women.blaw
- Which is not to classify it all as bunk, btw. 10 is true enough, and 7 is plain ol' nice.blaw
- i don't agree with the paying one completely either, but then we live together so our money is shared7point34
- 1 and 2 are spot on7point34
- I think it's real close the paying I dont mind sometimesredant