Something too personal.
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- dopepope0
This site sucks on an iPad.
- mtthwsms0
^Nailed it.
- Horp0
^
Kona has a done great job of editing it for you there. Its concise, I read it, I understood it, it took me four seconds.
However, I would like to suggest a further improvement upon Kona's. It is radical, and it is this:
You don't actually declare anything externally. You think it. You think to yourself "I'm not big on alcohol. I'm going to abstain. I'm not keen", but you don't actually make any announcements about it at all. This approach achieves two things:
1. Saves us all even more time
2. Creates the impression that you are less of a sanctimonious bore than you appear to be when you declare your thoughts.Sorry Kona. For what its worth I thought you did a great job there.
- i_monk0
Give him a break.
- qoob0
Why write this and then +1 people criticizing you?
- Troll.
Horp - Some screws loose. Easy to figure out if you actually read what he wrote.CygnusZero4
- Ive never seen a troll write that much.CygnusZero4
- Troll.
- jfletcher0
I can't tell if this is serious, but if it is... what happened or what experience made you hate alcohol and people who use it so much? I would say for how much you have to be in control, that feeling means you're not in control... when you have to have everything under your control and the smell of someone drinking makes you fuming mad, it doesn't sound like you're in control at all.
I didn't drink for a long time because I saw no point, but finally at 21 I started drinking... if you're staight edge, that's awesome... and I can't deal with people who can't control themselves when drinking, but I don't hate them, I just don't really drink with them. It's their call. Be happy doing what you love and let other people be happy as long as they aren't ruining your life.
As for the health issues, tons of people don't work out of take care of themselves in the food area... this is just as bad... but you don't seem to hate them...
ok, too much typing, I'm done :D
- kona0
When I was 30 I realized I no longer liked Hot Dogs. I spent my life savings on a Marketing Campaign to tell the world.
- you don't like hotdogs?? O_o NOOOOOjfletcher
- Ill bet he looks down on people that do like hot dogs.CygnusZero4
- What kind of asshole doesn't like hot dogs?cotton
- JackRyan0
- god yesCygnusZero4
- see. drinking helps.
dasohr - Dont need to drink for this bitch.CygnusZero4
- Goes with this:
http://www.youtube.c…qoob - chubby chasers all of you!!!robotron3k
- What a terrible dancer. She looks about 12 moving like that.mikotondria3
- fooler0
that was the worst "rock bottom" story I've ever heard!
- mtthwsms0
jfletcher - Sadly enough I have a big problem with obesity too. The only thing I can think of as to why it enrages is the fact that my father was a drunk, messed up my mom, and left us. I finally realized that smell can take you back to an exact time and place and make you feel anything.
I sort of feel like it is the strongest scent now.
- I see people on TV shows and drinking is the casual thing and everyone looks out for each other. Problem is, I don't know anyone like that. All the drinking i've ever seen has been negative.mtthwsms
- You sound like a lot of fun to be around.CygnusZero4
- Do something about it. If it makes you unhappy set goals and lose the weight. It ain't easy but it sure ain't impossible.kona
- haaha @ konaephix
- waterhouse0
Hahaha,
"Hey guys. I used to be a dick. But, it wasn't me. It was a chemical. Just look at the damage chemicals cause!
The message is clear to people like me who are smart enough to be sober at their keyboards. Despite what others tell me (after all, they're assholes amiright?), I'm no longer a dick.
Hail Xenu!"
- monospaced0
So, what you're saying is that you really hate your dad and that anger is left festering, forcing you to "hate" anyone who drinks. Go talk to someone.
- He's talking to us.CygnusZero4
- Problem is we cant slap him like a therapist probably would.CygnusZero4
- This is a serious issue because it's not allowing him to live a happy life. He's trying to be happy, but stressing out over the effort.monospaced
- over the effort. Not a good way to live life, always hating.monospaced
- Yes. This. To be cliche', today is the first day of the rest of your life. Don't let your Dad (still) ruin it for you.kona
- mtthwsms0
"He's talking to us." – CygnusZero4
Mono, you nailed it. I just don't fucking no how. I know it is dumb but not everyone in my family are the easiest to talk too. I get "God will fix it, Matthew" a lot.
- waterhouse0
^
Then see a therapist.- I have 3 kids. I don't have money to go talk to some random person about my problems.mtthwsms
- I can't intelligently respond to your retardation.waterhouse
- You win.mtthwsms
- qoob0
God will fix it, Matthew
- monospaced0
Your tone leads me to believe you truly are holding on to a lot of anger that you formed before you were an adult. This is the reason many people go into therapy in the first place, trying to come to terms with emotions that have been bottled up since before you could even DEAL with or understand them. If I were your friend, I would urge you to speak to someone who deals with this stuff regularly. Anyone who tells you "God will fix it" should not be taken seriously. That's not a real solution, it's a cop out.
If you don't know how to deal with this, that's understandable. Nobody knows how to deal with it by default. Life is messed up, but it shouldn't be spent judging and controlling (that's what religion tries to do, by the way), it should be spent living it. Wasting your time and emotional energy hating on a lifestyle is only going to make you more anxious, it'll make you age faster, and it'll kill relationships. So, go talk to someone. If you have health insurance, you can probably just book an appointment with a regular therapist. If you like him/her, talk. If you don't, move on. Be happy, my friend. Don't hate.
- But, don't think of this website as a free mental health clinic. We don't care about you.waterhouse
- precisely, waterhousemonospaced
- monospaced0
And think of the time spent with a therapist as a way to benefit not just your emotional health, but the health of your children. Can you imagine the hate they'll build with a dad that is constantly hating? Don't pass that on. Pass on good vibes.
- +waterhouse
- Bingokona
- The kids may not grow up the same, but, rather, the opposite.
cotton
- qoob0
Therapy is overrated/ waste of money