losing it...
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- EKUL0
FML FML FML
- dasohr0
it's your own fault bro, you are enabling his behavior.
- version30
pics or it didn't happen
- jacklalane0
Sounds like you guys are going to kill each other if you live together any longer. You gotta look after your own sanity first kick him out and get a roomate that have no weird family history/obligation with.
- grunttt0
- are you suggesting they adopt?version3
- +blaw
- Two Men and a Cougar?TheBlueOne
- version30
pony, I went through something similar last year. maybe you'll be as lucky as i was and not ever have to deal with your family again. this wasn't what I wanted initially, but as of now, they can all completely fuck off, and i'm better off and busier because of it, also, not bailing anyone out or loaning anyone anything or having shit broken/taken under the guise of "it's cool right?"
consider this the storm before the calm (i know it's backwards)
- kult0
Besides your brother not being able to hold a job, the only anecdotal evidence of bat-shit insane I see is a maniacal brother crashing down a door to jump in on a grown man having sex in his room.
- grunttt0
if you gave your brother the "uber-boot" and he's still there 6 days later... you're doing it wrong. When you kicked him out previous times, how long did that last, 15 minutes? Or did you just make him sit in a different chair?
- PonyBoy0
he's moving right now... fucking hell...
... i feel bad... but will feel like a millionaire a day or two from now...
... some other chump is taking him in apparently.
I'm willing to bet it's the troll he met at his new job.
- airey0
in terms of your brother i'd refer to the perfect statement:
"ditch the biatchâ„¢"
by doing so you're doing him a favour rather than enabling the guy's terrible behaviour. find solace in that and a 6 pack of beer.
- airey0
and scarabin, way to be superficial. i've never thought of you in those terms but man-o-man.
- mikotondria30
Yeh, you got to stop being his pretend parent against whom he can endlessly play out his teenage freedom/authority/responsibility dramas that he never learned to resolved fully, and so never really became a proper adult in terms of someone who can forsee consequences that might be against his long term interests.
Until someone has developed the skills to cope with putting-off short-term pleasure for longterm strategic goals, they never truly respect anyone who can, because they don't recognise that is someone else. He knows on one level that you can do this for yourself, and in some respects needs to be under your wing for both the protection that offers him, and also to possibly learn it from you by osmosis or example, but it doesn't work, and he ends up playing off your outrage at his behavior as authoritative, with which comes a whole host of parental issues, with the result that he's not getting anywhere with his personal growth, and you're not helping him by playing along.
He needs you to kick him out, albeit with the honest, sound advice about what he needs to do in the next week, month and year, with his life, but you can't perpetuate the roundabout that you're both on. It'll be harder on you watching him stumble, but in 5 years if he doesn't honestly thank you for doing that, then theres really nothing you can or should do to facilitate his wrecking of your life.
Honestly, he sounds like a bit of twat who needs to join the army or some such situation that would stop him being so selfish and kick his ass.
- PonyBoy0
annnnnnd... he's gone.
he gently shut the door after loading up his clothes, computer and various toiletries and is now gone...
... not sure what I'll do w/his mattress and other shit he left here - Last time we went through this is just sat and sat...
- raf0
You've just lost your brother a job. And a lay.
You owe him now.
- grunttt0
joking aside, I feel for you. I understand the rage a brother can put you into. I have an older brother that used to be able to make me go crazy. I literally punched a couple of windows out one time (I was like 15 or something) - nobody, and I mean nobody that knows me would ever be able to imagine me getting that angry.
- i thought you punched out 15 windows for a sec. Can't read today. 0_oharlequino
- lolgrunttt
- scarabin0
how much of your issue with him is jealousy?
he's hot, he's constantly shagging hot girls... bringing them home, etc.
i'm not sure how any of that really matters.
what i see the real issue being here is nonpayment of rent. in which case i say never mix money and family. you're both adults, you don't need to live together anymore. kick him out and make some other guy put up with his rent non-payment. then the whole girl thing will just be entertaining.
- he's fucking his boss, man... and he just got this job no more than 3 weeks ago...PonyBoy
- ... the last job he was at he was threatened for trying to extort from them.PonyBoy
- It's his inability to even step back and look how his fucked up self-centered actions affect those who literally provide for him.PonyBoy
- simply put - his fuck up's directly effect my life, lively hood and happiness.PonyBoy
- Then it should be obvious to you what you need to do.noRGB
- studderine0
damn ponyboy...when shit is rough...have a shit?
- noRGB0
Scarabin. It's very clear from his post that he thinks his brother has a lot of potential to succeed because of those reasons. Not that he is jealous. He just doesn't understand how a guy with everything going in his favor (his brother) can be such a useless fuck up.