Relationship Question
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- cannonball0
dump her
- pr20
I just wanted to add that EVERYONE is capable of cheating. Since i realized that it stopped being a deal breaker for me.
- not meCoffeemaker
- kiddinCoffeemaker
- that is insane.epete22
- studderine0
eeeeek
- fate_0
"I just wanted to add that EVERYONE is capable of cheating"
And EVERYONE is capable of being honest and monogamous.
- rson0
Fuck sorry but you sound like a dickjerk©! "P.S. She's also an upgrade of three cup sizes over the old girlfriend." lame man
- Jaline0
flavorful was right, d_rek, I read the entire thing.
It really depends on the person. Some people are fine with hanging out with ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, but other people find it to be creepy. If you can trust your girlfriend and know that she wouldn't do anything with him, it's her business that she continues to see him. If you don't like it and she's doesn't respect your wishes, then you two may want to re-evaluate your relationship. Personally, I, like yourself, find it strange that she lied about it, but if you guys had a discussion and are honest about it now you can continue to let this go and see what happens. Hopefully it doesn't end up somewhere else. That's where trust and personality comes in. Some people are more OK with this, others are not.
- OSFA0
So you're breaking up with her this weekend? Keep us posted!
Oh, and don't forget the pics, here's a site if you don't want to post them here...
- wordsinyourmouth0
hahahaha
- styleplus0
LEAVE THAT HO
- letters20
Best advice I ever got... Find someone you really like talking to.
Everything else will eventually fade. If you don't love talking to her, move on.
- MondoMorphic0
^^ I'm happy that your situation resolved itself...and there is something to be said for patience. Allowing exes to linger is such a tricky thing because it could be nothing or it could mean a whole lot (why does he/she still need this person in their life, why won't they let go, etc). In my experience, little good comes from lingering exes.
- STRIPPERS0
For your sake you better have tapped that sweet little thing real good before you walked out the door. Then you'll be the "ex."
- ukit0
Are you upfront with her about your concerns? And if so, how does she respond
- MondoMorphic0
Sorry to revive such an old, dead thread, but I wanted to give an update for all the thread's faithful followers. :)
The old girlfriend was dumped a while ago and my new girlfriend is 11 years younger (and conversely, about 11 years more mature), a lot more fun, smart, very sweet, selfless, maternal, a handful in the bedroom, smart with her money, considerate, thoughtful, and MUCH hotter! All's well that ends well.
P.S. She's also an upgrade of three cup sizes over the old girlfriend.
- Jaline0
MondoMorphic, not every woman is going to open up like that.
I am pretty much the same way as your girlfriend is when it comes to opening up to people. It's probably because, as Shari noted, I haven't found somebody that I like more than just a little bit.
Which leads me to say:
She's not into you.
Leave.
- rson0
can i get her number?
- autoflavour0
mondo, i hate to put it like this.. but life is way to short to be stuck in a relationship with someone like that.
communication is one thing, but yep respect for yourself and for those around you is very important also.
too often people compensate for poor habits of their partner because they believe in the bigger picture. this is a natural and right thing to do. No one is perfect and to expect it you will eventually just end up by yourself.
for what its worth, my advice is seek greener pastures.
if you see how she acts as something that has a history or repeated pattern, then you either need to accept that is who you are with, or accept that not every match is meant to be.
dont throw the baby out with the bath water, unless the baby is dead and the bathwater has turned septic.
- joeth0
Mondo,
Yours is over. I think you know what you have to do.d_rek,
Yours could be ok. You guys are young and maybe haven't had to go through this kind of thing before. But seriously, the ex has to be out of her life. If it was a once-in-a-while thing, like he knows how to fix her car or something, that might be ok. But he's clearly trying to get her back, and that can't be a part of her life if she wants to be with you. Let her know that your relationship is too important to let him in. She has to stop talking to him or it's over between you two.
- MondoMorphic0
^^ You could be very right. While I happen to think her lack of openness stems from her mommy issues (overbearing mother), it could very well be that what she wants me for are things other than lifelong companionship or a "real" marriage. Babies or money?
- Oh, great! Over-bearing mother. Now I’m going to have to update my list!MrOneHundred