Parental issues again
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- designerror0
sounds like you need to move out.
studderine
(Sep 27 06, 18:24)
- ornj0
I don't understand why you give a damn. You're 20 years old, in your third year of university, why the hell are you asking your parents if you can go hang with your buddies?
Just go. Tell them about it later. At this point in life I assume that the only thing they can hold over you is that they are the source of most of your finances, reason you can even go to university, etc.
you live in Canada, the legal drinking age is 18, go have some fun.
- studderine0
sounds like you need to move out.
- _salisae_0
jaline! don't ever say things like that.
sounds like they're being quite lazy .. they don't want to deal with the hassel of you being out of routine and they're not even available to consider your interests ..
i guess nothing will help for this go around but next time i'd just state your plans
- Seff0
yup,
get some roomates and start your life away from home..
can;t get much more growd up then that
- Jaline0
Eh, it's a cultural thing. I always wanted to move out, but I'll be disowned or something...
- nocomply0
Sorry wish I had some good advice cuz i know exactly how you feel. Fortunately i moved out when i turned 18 and started college and didn't have this problem too much. Why don't you threaten them with moving out? Tell them they are suffocating your lifestyle or osmething...i don't know.
Try that or compare this situation to something that your friends you "don't hang out with anymore" have done and how you are so much more responsible than that.
- Jaline0
i guess nothing will help for this go around but next time i'd just state your plans
_salisae_
(Sep 27 06, 18:28)see....I told them weeks ahead of time so that they couldn't have any way to make up excuses so that I can't go. Since they don't have any real excuses, in the end they just said 'NO'.
- CALLES0
did your mom get the hint when you didn't want her to read you a bedtime story?
- Rand0
jesus families are a mess
- Seff0
no you wont, you are in college right? 20 or something?
it is the way college kids live
- Seff0
when did your daughter move out rand?
- Jaline0
Yes, most of my friends have moved out, but my parents are different. And it does cut my tuition in half. I just have to learn to live with them....or something.
- blaw0
no offense to my folks, but i couldn't wait to move the hell out. sounds like you're at that same point.
of course, i liked it so much i moved out three times, but whatever.
good luck.
- mrpt0
I hate to break it to you Jaline but you'll never win if your living with you parental units. They own you until you move out....its in the fine print :P
- restlessdesign0
i'm with you blaw. i'm happier doing my own thing and taking care of myself and can't wait to get out of college and go 100% on my own. just need to figure out where i'll be working...
- joyride0
it's easy to say just go, or just move out. But, it's her family and she doesn't want to hurt em' just wants them to understand. My last GF had some very controlling parents. At 26, they gave her shit for driving at night, driving in the rain, etc. Basically, they wouldn't let her go. She tried to talk with them and they just ignored her, similiar to jalines situation. At some point you need to get them to listen. Just going is probably bad... you still live there. One question for them will be how old you have to be for them to let you go?
- Seff0
or you could become a tweaker
see how long you are welcome in the home, nt social experiment
- Rand0
when did your daughter move out rand?
Seff
(Sep 27 06, 18:36)she still lives here, and we all still like it that way
- studderine0
they'll disown you? sounds like your parents need to take whatever cultural/trad. bullshit and eat it. you are in college (as am i). i got a job, moved out. they may not like it, but at least you will be able to do what you want to do.