me again...
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- pascii
some of you might have heard the story about me and ms pascii. we broke up, came together again this december.
but it didn't work out. she wants to talk to me this evening. 18:30. i'm shitting my pants and i feel deranged.
sorry for moaning again NT, but we've been 2gether for almost 3 years and i still love her.
shit.
- KuzIV0
oh please pascii, dont do this to yourself!
maybe i'm the worst person to speak to about this, and 3 years is a long time.
But what's the situation here? She calls all the shots and you go running to her on her whims? I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, i'm only saying it out of care for you...
but really, tell her your busy tonight and cancel.
- neenaw0
good luck mate.
- neenaw0
and what kuz said. he's a ladies man and knows these things.
- pascii0
i allready said yes. i'm a masochist, and i will miss the foo fighters :'(
- DavidFelt0
Just be sure to only talk with her when YOU are sure in YOUR mind what YOU want, then by all means talk with her, at least this way you wont be swayyed by anything she has to say, or forced into anything...
Look out for number one old chap, only look out for a partner when you feel your being looked out for by her...
good luck, hope it all works out!
- kelpie0
oh mate, masochist is the word...
at least make her seriously work for it, don't just capitulate, if she's genuine she'll work hard, if not, she'll just hurt you again.
If it doesn't come easily to her it'll help her get things straight in her own head, which is obviously an issue here too.
imho (which could be utter shit btw :/)
- chossy0
pascii go onto skype seconds before she comes round and chat to me I will give you some good advice. Trust me pascii I got this covered.
- DavidFelt0
oh no chossy, please, a beasting in the bogs isnt whats required here! ;)
- KuzIV0
you can cancel and say no to her. Don't become her plaything. It's not very respectful to you. I'm sure you love her deeply and you know her intimately and are willing to forgive her so much. But you judge a person by their actions.
If you want to see her, see her. But on YOUR terms. Cancel tonight, say your busy, and rearrange for another night. I promise you, she'll start to chase you once you act a little aloof. Bottomline, she has to respect you.
The problem is, in your mind, you still see this girl as the one and only. Which is sad, cos she isn't. I want you to move on from her mentally, before you start dealing with her again. If you're still wrapped up in her everytime you see her, she's gonna find you very boring and unappealing. The last thing you want is pity from her.
Once she can see you've moved on from her, then you can begin nurturing her as a fuck-buddy. Ha! Girls are weird, some of em need to play these silly little games.
- pascii0
thanks boys. thing is, i have lots of deadlines and i can't work without clarity.
- kelpie0
Tell her to get stuffed then, finish your work, then answer all the messages she has been leaving in her increasingly desperate way
*predicts pascii's future.
- toe_knee0
Let her tell you what she wants, and want to change, then tell her what you want to change. Dont let her have it all her own way
- chossy0
I say get back with her for a while but because she is doing the grovelling when you guys have sex you can do really weird shit to her that you wouldn't normally get to do cause she is needing to please you again then dump her when you have completed your experimentations.
Ok next question I'm good at this.
- determinedmoth0
Time to call it day my friend. Dont get burned more than one.
- pascii0
thanks moth. apreciate all your words guys.
- KuzIV0
Time to call it day my friend. Dont get burned more than one.
determinedmoth
(Jan 25 06, 02:55)and then nurture her as a fuck-buddy! yay!
- mr_snuggles0
I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I'm fresh out of both pragmatism and optimism...
- kelpie0
Time to call it day my friend. Dont get burned more than one.
determinedmoth
(Jan 25 06, 02:55)and then nurture her as a fuck-buddy! yay!
KuzIV
(Jan 25 06, 03:15)YAY! cos that's not an emotional powderkeg, oh no!
- chossy0
Refer to my posts pascii don't listen to any of these people, I will keep you right, and remember to log onto skype before you talk to her I have a new technique I am working on, I like to call it shock and awe.