Why would you ask?
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- anzelina0
iDp took me out in vegas, did a good job of being a gentleman
- Tara0
you're contradicting yourself shellie. at first you say you don't care what he does but then go on to say that the guy should always pay for dinner even if they make less than you. now it doesn't sound like this guy could afford to take you out to dinner all the time.
- eficks0
perhaps read the thread
- shellie0
ohh.. kOna, is it like when that girl stabbed her friend with a kitchen knife for taking her ball?
gansta chillens.
- shellie0
No tara, thats not true. It doesnt matter how much money a guy makes, there's things he can do to just be a gentleman.
Not that I ever really care or look to be taken care of. I never have that in mind...
But when a check for a dinner on a date comes to the table and they ask you to split it.. its like ??
If your date is worth taking out, you should be ready to sarifice buying an extra pair of nikes or a new record to take a girl out to dinner if you think she's worth taking out in the first place.
That just makes sense to me.
There are always acceptions to the rule, but ive noticed if you are doing okay for yourself, guys throw the usual dating rules out the window because theyre cheap and selfish.
- grafholic0
almost every guy ive dated makes less than i do. Or if they do make more at first, they dont for long. hah.
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HAHAHAHAHA, i had to support my ex-husband financially when we got divorced, for like a year.then he makes more than me now, bitch.
- brandelec0
i always figured I asked the girl out on a date, so I would be paying for it.
- shellie0
Also tara, girls can take a guy out too. But then its like "Hey, I'm taking YOU out tonight." I've done that before and I don't mind. But, if they ask YOU to go out, it seems as though they would take care of you for the night.
I have one person in mind that I know, who is a notorious with going Dutch. I think that a lot of times the guys who are like that, also go dutch in a lot of ways in the relationship, emotionally and otherwise. He only goes half way.
- shellie0
Exactly brandelec... BUT there are so many guys that aren't like that.
I was talking to a girlfriend about that a few days ago. She's been with her boyfriend now for 4 or 5 years and the only thing she complains about (and what will probably end up being one of those things she throws in his face when they break up one day) is the fact that hes so selfish when it comes to things like that. I dont even think he knows that he does it.
- brandelec0
a lot of people are frugal by nature, and you're right, they probably don't know it.
fuck it, you live once, its the company you're with, last thing to worry about is the bill
- uberdesigner0
I pay 95% of the time, because of this I expect at least a bj on the first date. Shellie, let's go on a date.
- Meeklo0
No offense to you shellie,
I'm just sad to see those are the things that matter to you, when you said, you always dated guys that make less than you, you ovbiously care about that stuff, there is a lot of ways you can be a gentleman without having to go to the money issue, from flowers for no given reason on a random day, to a nice compliment.I'm more than happy to pay for a dinner, or lunch, or whatever, but I believe sometimes, girls want to to that too, i just dont believe that macho thing you know?
To me, that kind of thing is a huge turn off, and maybe it was too for your friend.
Specially if he is not from LA, you might not noticed cause you are used to talk like that with your friends maybe.Maybe I'm wrong and I misspelled your posts, the truth is I don't know you, but it just sounds like that to me.
- Rand0
so, are you married or divorced?
- Gorbie0
or married, but looking?
- shellie0
Meeklo: The fact that i often date guys that dont make as much money as i do should tell you right there that i really dont care about how much they make. If i did I'd run in the other direction.
i do care about drive tho. lazy assholes make me vomit. if they're working their ass off for 20 bucks an hour, then job well done.
like i said. we didnt really get to far intot he conversation with him. And he asked me. I could have cared less to have that conversation right then. I probably should have just said "i had a long day i'd rather not talk about work" But i felt like he was interested enough to ask me about what i did all day so i answered. i didnt really get that into detail about what i was doing or what i do. just kinda a quickie. i never talked about money... and often i avoid that with even friends because it becomes a very weird, innapropriate subject, don't you think?
to be honest i dont complain when guys make my pay. but it does sort of peev when they show up with a new stack of records and a fresh pair of shoes and then tell you their broke. it shows where their priorities are. they'd rather spend what money they do have on themselves instead of the girl theyre supposed to be dating.
I spend too much money on my friends and family and not enough on myself. But i grew up in a family where we all shared... and they never let me be a spoiled brat about anything.
I also notice guys that insist on going dutch all the time are often an only child or an only son.
And i also did say there are acceptions to the rule. Had ne not been so psychotic about it, I would have gone on a date with him anyway. Income does not put you out of the running.
- shellie0
jeez guys wtf.
- gabe0
not to be sexist, but women in general commonly read way too far into things and over-analyze...
sometimes, us men really aren't that complicated -- at all
- 67nj0
shellie, maybe you should see if he's worth a rehab, after all you said he was cute... is the rest so important?
- uberdesigner0
get in my porsche
- shellie0
hes cute and nice as far as i remember. maybe hes changed, which i also fear. its been.. god.. 8 years almost since we were "friends"