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- Fritz0
IMO... there will be a time when he needs you, he will inevitably need to talk about his girl and their situation. Their honky dory life will soon come to an argument. In turn you will need to be prepared for this cus hell want to talk about whats going on between them and not your relationship with him as a trust worthy friend. Hell need a shoulder to cry on and this will happen.
You of course wont hesitate to lend it to him, as you obviously have stated that youre close friends.This will be to youre advantage and a chance to remember the good o'l times surfacing the old friendship that was there.
Good luck Ive been in this before. Until I got the call, "hey man what are you up to? I need to get out of the house, can I come by and hang?"
- PonyBoy0
Is this the same show where you had the white woman revelation?
randoman
(May 18 05, 14:00)
++++++++++++As a matter of fact... yes.
- randoman0
Is this the same show where you had the white woman revelation?
- kbags0
unlike your situation, NT will never get a gf and ditch you ponyboy, the gang is always here for ya.
bitch :)
beagle
(May 18 05, 13:48)BWAAHAHAHAAAA! That's funny! But I do feel ya, ponyboy. I like the advice to let it settle best...
- beagle0
unlike your situation, NT will never get a gf and ditch you ponyboy, the gang is always here for ya.
bitch :)
- ricstultz0
yep, change is good ponyboy. He'll be there for ya when ya need him... let him get settled in a bit.
- PonyBoy0
;)
thanks all!
- vb_0
yeah, grafholic nailed it.
it's tough but it is true. i am going thru the same sh*t.. but it's actually not bad at all, once the change is becoming more clear to you you will learn to appreciate it.
heck, i have even found more time to do things for myself and make some new friends here and there..
- 2cents0
its called growing up dude.
- grafholic0
when one is in the state of transition, one may not see that s/he is changing (though subconsciously one notices it).
your friend is going through a major change, and people are usually scared of the change. it is not his intention to keep you away, but he's made a decision to be domestic with the gf, and he would like to believe that the change he's making is good for him. he only wishes you to support him for the action, and when you tell him "dude, remember when we got shit faced...?", it only makes him resent you (and he'd think that you're trying to sabotage the good thing that's happening to him).
just be a supportive friend for now and he'll realize his stupidity later.
- ricstultz0
yep, establish a guy's night out type thing.. kinda sound a little teh ghey tho.
- PonyBoy0
it's not a clingy situation, ric - it's pretty much just out of the blue that I'm sort of not his close friend anymore... I was never clingy (although he kind of was when his other girl dropped him on his ass about 2 years ago :) )
- ricstultz0
See, Im in the opposite situation. my single friend call me every frickin night because they are lonely. Tryin to give me this hard luck case about me never being around anymore. Its kinda pathetic... the more they try to hold on the more I'm like.. yo man, get a girl or a dog or a hobby or somethin.
I suggest you call your friend and just ask him to hang... just the two of you sometime. Dont be clingy tho... nobody like a clingy friend.
imo.
- spendogg0
Dude, totally need to have another chat with your friend. That shit happend to me on a certain level - i was the guy with the girl. I have been married for 6 years and ... here it comes.
That dude needs to establish with his girl now that there needs to be manditory boy time. Cuz if he doesn't and gets married and down the road wants boy time - it will be so much harder to retrain the relationship to accomodate his needs. You will be doing him and you a big favor by making him realize that.
- mogwai0
i would strongly suggest sabotage.
here are some ideas.
1: sneak a pack of cigs (off brand) and some condoms into her glove box (or tucked away in her car). he will find them surely.
2: send flowers from 'secret admirer'
3: have male friends of yours leave messages on their machine for her"i wont be able to make lunch tomorrow, how bout a rain check"
Of course she will deny these occurences, and he will be forced to believe her, but the idea here is to break his spirit and trust, which will weaken the relationship, and eventualy dissolve it.
- PonyBoy0
I dunno - I realize when I'm being stand-off-ish or anti-social... but what's really frustrating is that my friend doesn't see much of 'the change' he's going through (which really isn't my place to point out to him - but his stand-off-ish-ness got to the point where I thought I should say something... which of course didn't go over well).
Eh - I'm just bummed out - losing a buddy to maturity SUCKS!
- brandelec0
i turned into 'that' guy when i was seeing someone, i felt like an asshole to my friends for the longest time
now i make up for it by buying drinks
- uberdesigner0
also, go gay
- uberdesigner0
get new friends
- grafholic0
i can relate to you - my best friend from college got married and got a kid now, moved to a burb to raise the kid.
at first, it seemed that we were growing apart - she was busy with her family and raising the kid, i was busy socializing with folks in the city. the stuff she tells me i can't relate to ("oh my husband made a chair the other day" or "my kid said mommy the other day!") and things i tell her is sort of immature to her ("i got sooo wasted last weekend, i'm still hurt").
it seemed like it was like that for a year - we spent time apart, only to realize that the current i have is not like her. she's the one who saw me way back when, the one who has seen me grow up, and she realized that i'm the same way to her.
our life's still different: she's still the wife and the mom (and now a working mom), i'm the single city dweller who never learns a lesson from hangover. but we still have stuff in common which made us friends in the first place. we don't go out at night any more but have lunch together every now and then to catch up.
often our priorities change in our lives and what once used to be so important becomes not so important for a while. but then, one day in the future, you two will realize the valuable things you shared, and will overcome somehow. yeah you might not party with him like you used to, but will find a way to continue to stay friends.