"Tag Along"
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- grafholic0
i can relate to you - my best friend from college got married and got a kid now, moved to a burb to raise the kid.
at first, it seemed that we were growing apart - she was busy with her family and raising the kid, i was busy socializing with folks in the city. the stuff she tells me i can't relate to ("oh my husband made a chair the other day" or "my kid said mommy the other day!") and things i tell her is sort of immature to her ("i got sooo wasted last weekend, i'm still hurt").
it seemed like it was like that for a year - we spent time apart, only to realize that the current i have is not like her. she's the one who saw me way back when, the one who has seen me grow up, and she realized that i'm the same way to her.
our life's still different: she's still the wife and the mom (and now a working mom), i'm the single city dweller who never learns a lesson from hangover. but we still have stuff in common which made us friends in the first place. we don't go out at night any more but have lunch together every now and then to catch up.
often our priorities change in our lives and what once used to be so important becomes not so important for a while. but then, one day in the future, you two will realize the valuable things you shared, and will overcome somehow. yeah you might not party with him like you used to, but will find a way to continue to stay friends.