Jevad
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- MX_OnD0
what Jaline said.
There's no shame in falling down, but there is if you don't stand up again.
- mamaMX 1947-2001
- kingjulien0
My favorite line in Closer, a brilliant brilliant movie, is when Clive Owen has to hear every position that his wife and her secret lover slept with each other in. He needs to know every specific intimate detail, and when he's questioned about his reasons, he screams," Because I'm a fuckin' caveman!" It's such an honest moment, a mentality many people share, yet few are willing to admit. No matter how far we've evolved, we're still stunted emotionally. We want what we can't have. Then we self-destruct.
Now, the bright side is, the mind is all powerful. You're in for some rocky moments ahead amigo--things won't get better every day--but if you can somehow flip this switch in your head, turn pain into beauty, despair into new kinds of truth, then you'll one day see that you're more human for having gone through it.
And even if this cliff notes existential is for the birds, at least it's something to believe in, and false illusions are often better short term than the cold hard naked truth. At least that's what i tell myself while crying in the shower each morning.
- tkmeister0
Jevad,
stay strong.my grandma passed away friday while i was in Paris vacationing.
I haven't seen her in years and can't even remember what was the last thing i said to her. I missed her funeral.
it hasn't sank in me yet. i know it will, soon. the trip to paris, the death of my grandmother all put me in perspective of how i need to live my life.
life has a strange way of working it out.
- Rand0
what Brooke, Gorbie, Steve, Jaline, mx said
- gruntt0
i don't know the circumstances, but i do know you're in pain.
i'm sorry nic. stay strong when you can. cry when you need to.
- mattyd0
from 'this time' by the verve:
'no time for sad lament, a wasted life is bitter spent.'
then again, its good to remember everything. i dunno, im all talk...
- brooke0
Maybe I'm naive, but music always makes me feel better:
- hotreport0
"Now I know why people cry..." Terminator
- dirtydesign0
Step outside again. Take a walk.
Go back to where you saw all those hotties and get some numbers. I'm NOT saying go out and get layed and all that, although it's not a terrible idea. Try meeting someone new.
Just a thought.
- pascii0
omfg! i did not know jevad! this sucks big big big time man. i would like to d something besides writing here. like come over witzh a sixpack or so but it's too far.
- Gorbie0
damn.. that terminator always knows just the right words to say.
- monkeyshine0
jeez...I just pulled my own sad head out of the sand and peek in here to see the whole world has turned upside down.
Sorry to hear this, Nic. I just ended a 13 year relationship and am in hell, so I empathize.
- Rand0
me sorry, monkey
- Tara0
from what i heard after a breakup the LAST movie you should see is Closer. don't do it Jevad
- tehgee0
hi jevad its ok to cry :)
- uberdesigner0
There are a few things you can do.
1) Ask her to patch things up- if you go this route, don't take it from her like a little bitch, but be rational.
2) You can try to understand and accept her decision- She may simply be too immature for marriage. Anyone who springs divorce papers on their mate is likely a baby.
3) Get drunk as piss. Realize that it'll take a year or two to heal up, but don't allow another person to destroy your life. If someone doesn't want to be with you for whatever reason, then fuck 'em.
Either way, you should get drunk as piss. Don't start listening to the smiths.
- JazX0
hi jevad its ok to cry :)
tehgee
(May 17 05, 11:02)ohh come on, leave him be now.
- vb_0
what Jaline said.
There's no shame in falling down, but there is if you don't stand up again.
- mamaMX 1947-2001
MX_OnD
(May 17 05, 09:54)i'm sorry she not with you anymore, MX_.
:'(
- ghandolf0
Let's think about this for a second... You have to respond to her paperwork.
You can either accept it as is, sign them, work out the details, and walk away...
You could also counterfile for 'separation'. If you really love her, and think whatever it is may be able to be worked out, maybe this is the approach you should take.
People separate all the time to work their issues out. It gives you both time to settle down, figure things out, clear your heads and decide what you BOTH want to do, and what is best for you, in a more un-emotional setting.You both have to agree to a divorce, just as you both have to agree to work it out. The only other option is to part ways and think about it for a while.
- Tara0
i agree with uberdesigner.
medicate with alcohol.