Salt in wound
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- jox
I have this friend who just went through an awful breakup and is pretty much bummed the whole time. She works for a pretty unstable company who's constantly losing clients to the competition. I talk to her everyday and give her support and help her move on from this guy.
I happened to come across some info today how they're about to lose on of their major accounts. I felt obligated to tell her that she should probably start looking for another job because the ship is about to sink in the next 6 months.
I tell her this over the phone, and she starts crying loudly, says how everything constantly FUCKS UP and says she have to go, click. She turned her phone off, no way to reach her.
I feel SO bad right now. Should I have waited to tell her, since she was so bummed already?
Help a guilty NTer out. It's killing me.
- version30
you have to fall before you get back up. sometimes crutches are a bad thing.
- canuck0
that's quite the pickle.
- mrdobolina0
fuckit jox, you were just looking out for your friend.
- ********0
you show up at her place with a pickle and a UI application form
- brandelec0
dont feel bad jox, it would've been worse
- Jaline0
Just comfort her, I guess.
- jox0
Thanks guys.
I would drive up and see how she's doing but don't want to constantly bother her, she says she needs some space one second and for me to stop pitying, and the next she's the lonliest person alive.
- mrs_emecks0
is there any chance you can meet up? might be a good idea.
- davey_g0
Reality is a bitch, better now than later is my theory.
- inhaler0
well, she was down to begin with, and she's pretty sensitive to that kind of stuff.. she needs to go through the motions to cope, (be upset, yell, beat her head against the wall) but once the sky clears, she'll probably be happy to have the heads up..
maybe its something she use to get herself back on track.. but that sounds like a bad streak. sorry mate.
- canuck0
could be worse. she could owe the tax man.
- ********0
one time a buddy of mine and his girlfriend i just met were real drunk and got in a fight and like i'm a good guy tried comforting her while he did the punching the wall thing and turns out they are the sort that drink and fight and fuck like 4-5 times a week so i was getting involved in a situtation that was stupid to begn with and i made the mistake of saying "i don't think about you like that... i'm not trying anything here i'm just making you feel better" sort of thing just as he walked in and he thought i was trying to move in and it didn't matter we were all drunk and that was that they went home and fucked and then i talked to my friend on messenger the next night and he was trying to change the subject and talk about sports
- winter0
don't try to approach a person in distress, dude. i mean, if that's what you're doing, give her plenty of room.
- jox0
oh no, nothing like that at all - i'm perfectly fine having her as a friend and nothing more. I'm just scared she might *think* otherwise if I come over trying to excuse myself for dropping the bomb on her in the middle of all this.
But at the same time I feel like a cock for my timing. I feel I should've waited a few weeks at least. I'm such a douche.
- -scarabin-0
cheer her up with some job leads
- jox0
Scarabin, what is actually a really good idea - can't believe I didn't think of that. Thanks!
- Jaline0
i think you should wait a bit and then start giving her some ideas on where to apply or who to talk to and such for employment.
- jox0
Er. really? Shit, too late. Haha.
- Jaline0
oh well
let's just hope she's not the type to grieve forever...
- winter0
well then, you tried to help. you cannot blame yourself for that.