intervention pt2
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- grafholic
following my previous intervention thread.
so, one of my friends and i have decided to set some time to tell my friend (who has a drinking problem) about our concern. we both went to some intervention tips websites, etc., got some idea about how to tackle this issue.
since yesterday, i have been having mixed feelings - while i'm deeply concerned, some of the stuff she did when she was wasted still pisses me off. in order to make the intervention work, i've been trying to come to terms with the things she did, but that hasn't been easy.
then she called me today saying our mutual friend from LA is up here in SF and tonight is the only night we can hang out. this LA friend (who doesn't know about her drinking issue) wants to see us at a bar after work.
now i'm feeling divided. as much as i want to see this LA friend, i'm still pissed at the girl with drinking issue, and I KNOW i'll be furious as soon as i see her with a glass of whatever liquor of her choice.
i have 6 hours or less to resolve this anger.
on top of that, i can't mention my concern to her tonight. all i can do is try to have fun while making sure she won't get wasted and/or try to drunk-drive...which i know she will. and it hurts so much.
this just sucks.
sorry had to vent.
- tkmeister0
there's only so much you can do.
sorry to hear.
- gruntt0
good luck graf. this sucks.
- brandelec0
take her keys
and if she think you're being a bitch, so be it
- gruntt0
yeah, definitely take her keys.
- grafholic0
on her birthday, after being smashed with 3 bottles of champagne, she attempted to drive (she couldn't even walk by herself). i took the key away from her, at which point, she tried to punch me in the face, but being drunk, she only lightly scratched my light cheek. after taking her to her friend's place, she passed out. then woke up 2 hours later (still drunk, everyone else was passed out), she drove.
unless she's locked in somewhere, she WILL drive.
- robotron3k0
take her keys, move her car, then give them back.
- abettertype0
I admire the care you have for this person. Most "friends" just watch this happen. Talk to her, while she is sober.......if she hates you or gets mad, at least you tried.
- brandelec0
my buddy was almost the same.. he started drinking alone at home
so we told him we're worried and kept him busy to snap out of it.
just remind em that you're saying these things and doing this because you love em
- ThreeSevenFive0
Do what you have to do. She may be angry but anger goes away, death and regret do not.
Sorry about your friend.
Once she snaps out of this she'll remember how much you were always there for her and that you are a true friend.