Parents Vs. Strangers
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- mg33
Something in another thread got me thinking, and I was just explaining this to someone last night:
What means more to you, that you impressed strangers, or your parents?
With me being a musician, I've been getting in front of strangers for years, singing and playing guitar. It takes practice, but when I'm up there it's easy. There are no qualms about being in front of many people.
But my parents, family, my girlfriend, I have NEVER sat down and played a song/sang a song in front of them.
I was telling someone last night about my theories on this:
Your parents are going to accept what you do no matter what, they're not going to be critical and they're most likely going to say "Good Job!" no matter what.But strangers, people in a crowd, people at an art show, people here on NT, they're not attached to you, and their feelings about what you did will go either way.
I've always felt that it's easy to be in front of a crowd because I'm going to put 110% into it and do everything I can to make no mistakes, do my best, give them something interesting and exciting. Otherwise, I'm left with a room full of people looking at us thinking we're no good.
What do you think about that?
Anyone else have similiar thoughts?
- Hym0
parents dead, i'm always at 110%
threadkiller
- nografik0
both, if both strangers and parents are impressed by my work, then i'm happy ;)
- Mimio0
Strangers... My mom thinks the sun shines out of ass, completely biased.
- snuggles0
Parents have unconditional love for you so it's pretty hard to not impress them [or have them not be proud of you].
Personally, I'm not out to impress anyone other than my creative directors and my clients....
- mg330
That's what I was looking for mimio.
- grafholic0
it depends on person and you can never really compare either.
i grew up with good support from my parents, like you, and never feel the need to impress them. yet my friend grew up always being compared to her older brother. as a result, she constantly tries to get approval from her parents, but her attempt is never ending - she never feels good enough. after all, she needs to feel comfortable with herself first and it's unfortunate how she was raised.
being in front of crowd is a whole another theory too - some people are more sensitive to criticism. i guess that also relates to how confident you are (not arrogant, but confident enough to show as well as listen to criticism), but there's an added fact that there will always be an asshole who'll talk shit just because s/he had a bad day, and you have to feel good about yourself enough to ignore such bitterness.
(i'm borrowing words from lifeinbinary here - now i reflect back on my own situation).so, yes.
it's all about feeling good about yourself and the work you've done as well as being confident enough to listen to criticism because you know you can be better.
- ingolfr0
i like to impress myself, i dont care what others think.
- snuggles0
word ingolfr, i like to touch myself and I don't care what others think..
- ********0
yeah, the people i really want to please are myself, my CD, and the clients.
i could care less what the hacks on NT think of me :)
- snuggles0
but everyone loves you nick, and how could we not :P
yours truly,
Hack #264
- ********0
hehe, not everybody snuggles :)
- brooke0
No one in my family really understands what I do. Although it hurts my feelings when my mum says she likes the realistic stuff & not the stylized. How silly of me!
As far as strangers - opinions of people NOT in the design industry do not affect me. However the critiques of professionals do - in a very big way.
- snuggles0
like who, gimme some dirt!?!
other than Fawn of course..