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- _salisae_
i accidentally gave this guy the wrong signal. we are both into each other - but i just got out of a relationship and am hesitating to hook it up - and keep messing it up with the new guy. he's now pissed and frus with me. last time i saw him he blew me off and talked to another girl. what can i do to get his attn back?
need help!
- Tara0
if he's getting mixed signals from you than he is probably protecting himself now. be honest with him-tell him what you just said. either he'll turn around and be interested again or he's lost interest. but you won't know until you try talking to him.
- Nac0
Exactly just tell him how you feel, communication is always good
- k0na_an0k0
honesty is the best policy.
showing him your boobs comes in a close second.
- ********0
dunno how you frustrated him, but maybe you can ask him if he wants to have coffee...then without getting heavy, talk to him about the situation.
- _salisae_0
tell him that i got out of a relationship recently? wouldn't that make him more hesitant?
- lilbabyarm0
bone. then he'll know you are serious about him.
- ********0
mamma mia?!
- e-wo0
"tell him that i got out of a relationship recently? wouldn't that make him more hesitant?"
not necessarily. just clarifies to him that you aren't a ho.
- ********0
you don't have to say that, really...just that you've had some bad experiences and that is making you react this way, or that way, or wanting to take things slow.
don't get into specifics...last thing he needs to hear is about some guy. just send him the signal that you are really interested, but cautious.
- Donvitoviti0
Man.. you definatly need to clear things up.. just tell him straight up...
because nothing is worse than girls giving mixed signals....
- Mimio0
Ask him out. Nothing wrong with that. Show him you're interested, instead of showing him you're indecisive and wounded.
- _salisae_0
i know! he acted like he HATED me. i interrupted his conversation with that girl too - and asked him to play pool with me and he said yes - but was begrudging and pissy.
do i even have a chance now?
- ********0
sure. he could've just as easily told you to piss off.
- e-wo0
yup. if you talk to him about it all. apologize for the mixed signals--even if you don't feel like you were wrong. he'll be more receptive if you concede on that front.
- ********0
i think Lavalife is that ----> way
- Soler0
Most guys respond well to you wanting to date them. They aren't chicks. Just tell him you're into him and it's all you baby!
- _salisae_0
okay. so say that in the asking out conversation - like:
i know i have been giving you mixed signals and it's been unintentional - i would really like to hang out.
- ********0
lol - troo!
funny how one gets caught up in these threads.
- clone0
find another guy.
guys misunderstand girls all the time and miss our chance it. sounds like this happened to you. move on. its better for you both
- vwsung18t0
is it me? i've been getting mixed signals from this girl, too.