tampa escape
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- nsa
i need some advice kids:
so my boyfriend has disappeared across the country for the next few months to teach kung fu and train. i have already surprised him in chicago, this week he is in tampa.
i am currently aggravated with my job, lots of redesigning and getting no where, and i can easily lie and get a day or two off "dr apt" whatever. (the boss already knows i went stalking the kid in chi-town)
but i also ought to be taking care of stuff for when i get the chance to quit here, do something else etc. i guess i dont know how to forge it. what to do?
stay in cold ass ny for the weekend, or make a white lie and miss a few days of work? or stay and focus on my future...
- jgjh1510
Go ahead miss a few days, take the chance while you have it. I want to go to ampa, so nice there.
- Biofreak0
depends on how long youve been together.
not long = stalkerish
a few months = generally ok
long term/years = stay at home.
your dude is probably a busy man and your trips might only slow him down.
just my thoughts though.
- mitsu0
i have always questioned relationships where trust is an issue. there are two things that are integral to a healthy relationship: communication and honesty. a lack of either or both can cause this type of anxiety.
if it's really bothering you, pack up and track him down, but really the best thing to do is trust him. that's putting the weight on his shoulders to do his part and not screw up.
- nsa0
we've been together more than a few months but not yet a year.... and the invite was extended from him.
bio, i definitly appreciate your thoughts and have the same myself. im not trying to get in anyone's way.
its the culivation of the potential for an escape, specifically because im hating work so much. but again, i could be channeling that into something else i guess...
like, damn, i dont even have a portfolio site up.....but i gues im caring less and less about doing design other people's way and just want to have fun and remember why i got into it in the first place.
- mitsu0
"and the invite was extended from him"
ahh, nothing to worry about then.
- Biofreak0
well, sounds like you could go and get away with it then...
i would advise against it, but i dont know you or your man. also, i need a lot of alone time. . . so...
as for the loss of interestin gfx, change jobs! try to find something in a different field! i know how you feel with the portfolio site. i had one and took it down cuz i just hated doing it.
im almost thru with my new site and it isnt even gfx related. it is designed (not well haha) but focuses more on other things in life.
go take a trip by yourself. enjoy your "me time". visit mississippi, i'll get you good and intoxicated and take you snipe hunting. (heheh... snipe hunting)
- nsa0
the thing i am worried about is about me taking care of myself.
being sick of lame design work and running away out of new york to tampa for the weekend isnt going to solve my problems with work... and career etc. we all have to live our lives...and i definitly need to get out of this one.
- nsa0
ha! BIO! we are so in the same spot! i deifnitly know i ought to take care of myself....and i reckon i wont be going to tampa. what you say makes sense, and i love my "me" time/..i guess just the fact that i might not see the kid for 4 months is what kills.
mississippi eh?
- Biofreak0
mid eastern mississippi.
=)
- k0na_an0k0
ummmm... didn't feel like reading the other posts but here is my opinion.
-if you want to see him because the two of you are in love... and have been for a while then go. do it while you're young and you can.
-if you want to see him because of a lack of trust... on your part. then you have to understand that trust is the basis of every relationship... friend or other. if you don't trust one another then your relationship is destined to fail.
catch my drift.
i'm single by the way so what the hell do i know.
- hupp0
Hey - it sounds like you're not clear on what you want - and therefore how to decide what you want to do.
You seem to already know that you're looking for excuses to not take care of shit at home, and perhaps looking on NT to find someone to tell you convincingly to 'do it.'
Based on what you said - you perhaps would be happiest taking some time out and tackling the things that make you feel like you're helping yourself. If that means taking a few days off work to sort that shit out - then perhaps thats an option.
Ultimately, you don't have to feel guilty or bad about what you do (or chose to) - because you should do everything you chose, because you want to do it - based on what makes you the happiest, and those you chose to be with.
When that happens regularly - what you want to do and 'ought' to do are very similar things.
- nsa0
a- this is not a trust issue. it is an issue of wanting to see my boys face.
b- invariably, during all this discussion and while working at the same time, i have paid no attention to my cell phone...which of course had a message on it from him. f course all this happens after i had made the choice to not go. damn the boy for making me all melty inside and wanting to chagne my mind!!!
- hupp0
> it is an issue of wanting to see my boys face.
GO SEE THE BOY.
If a world can't exist where we aren't allowed to travel across the country to see the one we want to be with - then it aint worth subscribing to this one, make your own rules - make this happen, and help us all believe in being romantic and happy.
(just pretend to do some work on the plane or something...)
- oculasm0
travel is good.. could be a nice little break.. get time off and just go..when you come back you'll probably feel more like doing work.
- Loopy0
Leave him alone!
He's probably at MONS anyway: ||http://www.monsvenus.com/previ... ||
or maybe across the street at that new joint where they let you.. oh forget it. You don't wanna know about that.
- Loopy0
Oops lemme try that again:
Leave him alone!
He's probably at MONS anyway:
http://www.monsvenus.com/preview…or maybe across the street at that new joint where they let you.. oh forget it. You don't wanna know about that.