breaking up
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Jimee -
I broke up with my girlfriend of four years just three short weeks ago and I must say my situation sounds a bit like yours. We had a bunch of small problems with the saving grace that we were still best friends and still loved eachother.
You just have to ask yourself if the problems you have are going to still be there in a year, or two years. If you can honestly answer yes, then break it off. The way you break it off is totally different for each relationship. I had a weird situation where the girl I broke up with happened to move to a new city with me four months ago. She moved into the house I own, and now she's still living with me. Which oddly works for us. I know I made the right decision by breaking up with her because it feels as if nothing has really changed between us other then living in seperate rooms. We had simply became friends through the years and we slowly lost sexual attaraction to one another, which brought on a bunch of other problems. We also didn't have the same goals in life, I want to have kids one day and she wasn't sure.
So really don't listen to what other people say about how you should do it, but evaluate your own situation and base your decisions from that.
Being single is great btw. So don't be scared that being single = being alone. I think that was one of the fears that kept me from breaking up with her sooner. Also..it's hard for a while, especially when you brake up with someone you've been with for so long. I still slip and call her 'babe'..but I always appologize so as not to send mixed signals..it's just habit.
Cheers and you'll know the right decision...you already know.