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    Watching the otherness that's being pushed by individuals and groups all around the world is unbelievable. My automatic reaction is to respond in anger and resentment, supporting this otherness, and start my sentences with "You!..."
    But what I'm increasingly witnessing is that there's no otherness; there's no difference and separation. When I start to see through their pain as individuals or societies, my anger subsides. I start seeing myself too, and my will becomes care, help, ease, listening, and seeing. Then I want to start my sentences with "Sister...Brother..."
    As one of the examples of this realization, I have friends who are still supporting the man in power; I can't argue with them, I can't dismiss and create another layer of separation in my mind; I shouldn't, as that's the easy way my ego enjoys, to claim superiority**. I only watch their traumas unfolding in front of me as their fears surface, and I make sense of the senseless only that way. **Just like nations at war with each other. How ironic.

    I also met someone who supported zionist ideology last year, in the community that we were living in. I heard her reasoning, I didn't say anything, didn't give any responses, she shared her pakalolo with me, she gave my son a swimming lesson with utmost care, love and patience. I saw her fears, I saw her desire to do good. Later I removed her from seeing my shares on FB, I didn't want her to be offended by my posts, that's not the way I want her to relate with me, I wanted good memories to last and avoid a complete detachment from each other. I'm not marking that as avoidance or accomodation, I think it's what we need in the midst of conflict.

    I want to forgive everyone and myself and move on. The opposite neither worked, nor brought me peace and safety in this life-time.
    I just wish that we could mass-heal humanity, put all of us on a path that would just show us who we are gradually and help us achieve balance.
    If that doesn't happen, the way we get dealt with(historically), as a manifestation of our fears, is a catastrophe where we are pushed towards living that fear, living through the horror, and then unite in suffering.
    I hope humanity doesn't have to go through that hard lesson again. I'm praying not just with words but by collecting strength and information, working on my wounds for how we might reach through to each other with a genuine intention. For some reason, I feel that, this is most possible than ever, or maybe that is just my way to handle the weight of events all around.

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    • this is what I shared with my community on FB. I thought I have a community here too so why not share here. Written by me, punctuations corrected by AI.Beeswax
    • The point is, I want to take a different path from now on, and not watch my ego blasting in fear and anger.Beeswax
    • think you have ppl around with different opinions and still can share beers with them over a table
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    • just stop at flat earthers man, that fight is not worth it...
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    • loll. They are the least harmful of all though. Having a beer and discussing why we don't fall off the edge could be entertaining.Beeswax
    • I don't know any flat earther, but, I wouldn't mind having a beer with one either. The world is full of ignorant people, but these ones are harmless...OBBTKN
    • Good luck on your "new path". It's going to be easy, too much noise.OBBTKN
    • Sorry: "it's not going to be easy..." 8am no coffee ;)OBBTKN
    • respect! well said!renderedred
    • Strange how the mind can be razor-sharp in self-awareness—yet totally miss the part where you’re an invader in someone else’s homeland, like Hawaii.hotroddy
    • I understand you. And your desire to find a home. It's not out in this world though. If you think it is, then there's the fear of invasion everywhere.Beeswax
    • And I'm really sorry that you felt that "otherness". For whatever a quality that you carry. You're not other and I appreciate your response.Beeswax
    • I'm not an "other," and I've noticed that those who insist on identifying that way do it to fill a void or fuel their narcissism. Just assimilate—no one careshotroddy
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